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Most of us feel that we have a pretty good idea as to what is right and what is wrong, and we are usually not afraid to express our opinions about what we consider to be right and what we consider to be wrong.  How can we be so sure that we are right about an issue when the guy who lives down the block from us is so sure that we are wrong about the same issue?  The guy who lives down the block began a socialization process of automatically exchanging his subconscious spiritual thoughts and feelings with other people through the Collective Subconscious early in life.  We also began the same socialization process early in life.  How can our opinions be so different?  Even though we were each developing spiritual links with other people as we were growing up, we were not developing our spiritual links with the same people.

The people who we developed our spiritual links with became an important part of our thought processes.  They became like a conscience telling us what was right and what was wrong.  Whenever we would express our opinions about an issue, we would feel that we were being “watched” and that we were being supported by these people who we were spiritually linked to.  And the guy who lived down the block also felt that he was being “watched” and that he was being supported by the people who he was spiritually linked to.  We did not feel that we were living in a fantasy world and the guy who lived down the block did not feel that he was living in a fantasy world.  Our spiritual connections with the people who we were spiritually linked to were very real and very dynamic and those spiritual connections were a very important part of our reality.  And the spiritual connections of the guy down the block were very real and very dynamic to him.  Those spiritual connections were a very important part of his reality.  We lived on the same block as the other guy but we lived in different worlds.

There are a lot of vulnerable people in our physical world who do not consider their spiritual connections with other people to be an important part of their reality.  When a vulnerable guy (or a vulnerable girl) hears other people talking about parallel worlds and parallel realities they have no idea what those people are talking about.  And when those people go on to tell the vulnerable guy that he is living in a fantasy world he will probably think to himself that his fantasies are nowhere near as ridiculous as fantasies about parallel worlds. 

Most of us have heard about or read about dual citizenship.  A person who has dual citizenship is recognized as a citizen in two different countries.  But a person might also be a citizen of (or be a part of) two different fantasy worlds.  For example, if a vulnerable guy does not become a part of a real spiritual world, he might become a part of a fantasy spiritual world or he might possibly become a part of two different fantasy spiritual worlds.  In order for us to understand how a vulnerable guy might have become a citizen of two fantasy worlds it might be useful for us to understand how he might have been forced into a situation where he is only living in fantasy worlds while most of the other people who he meets are living in real worlds.  This sort of thing might happen if a vulnerable guy was only given a limited role in his family.

 

When a vulnerable guy starts to develop relationships with people outside of his family, the people who he meets will be confused.  Due to the fact that they believe the family’s fantasy that the vulnerable guy is living in a real spiritual world (and not a fantasy world), they will wonder why they are only able to develop a very practical and very limited type of a relationship with him. 

Most people who the vulnerable guy meets develop a deep set of emotions (which is the most important part of their soul).  They also develop a practical set of emotions.  An example of a person using their practical emotions might be a car saleswoman merging the practical part of her soul with the souls of her customers for the purpose of getting them to buy an automobile from her.  When a customer comes into the car dealership she tries to build rapport with that customer by developing a practical sort of spiritual attachment with them.  After creating this spiritual attachment she will be exchanging subconscious spiritual thoughts with the customer.  She might allow the customers to take a test drive with the car.  One customer who takes a test drive will take the car out into the country to see how fast it will go.  Another customer will use the car to pick up their kids after school.  When the customers come back and the saleswoman realizes that the test drive has helped them to overcome their doubts about the car, she will be happy that they want to buy the car but she will not know where they took the car on the test drive.  But even though she does not know consciously where the customer took the car on the test drive she might know at a deep subconscious level where the customer took the car and she might know what the customer was thinking during the test drive because of the practical spiritual attachment that she formed with the customer when the customer walked into the car dealership.

The saleswoman is living in one real spiritual world (or spiritual reality) and her customer is living in another, different real spiritual world.  When people relate to other people who are from different real spiritual worlds they use practical spiritual connections.  The relationship cannot really develop into anything further because the basis of the relationship is false.  It is not based on strong emotions.  The vulnerable guy who we have been discussing has exchanges of spiritual energy with other people that are similar to those of the saleswoman.  The saleswoman has exchanges of spiritual information with her customers at a very deep level, but it is a temporary sort of a spiritual exchange that will not lead to a relationship.  And the vulnerable guy also has exchanges of spiritual information with other people that tend to not become very strong.

 

They will allow those myths to go deep into their souls because the myths come into them in a magical way (through the automatic exchange of subconscious spiritual energy with other people through the Collective Subconscious).  For this reason, if a vulnerable guy meets a woman who is only merging the practical part of her soul with him, there will be quite a bit going on.  The woman who the vulnerable guy meets is also exchanging her spiritual energy through the Collective Subconscious with other people who she knows.  A lot of vulnerable guys might have gotten into a pattern where they are interfacing with a woman (who we will call a “primary woman”) who is only merging the practical part of her soul with the vulnerable guy.  The primary woman is relaying the spiritual energy that she picks up from the vulnerable guy to other women who she knows (who we will call “secondary women”) through the Collective Subconscious.  And the primary woman might also be relaying the spiritual energy of the secondary women who she knows to the vulnerable guy through the Collective Subconscious.  The vulnerable guy might be picking up some strong emotional feelings because he can sense that there is a magical exchange of spiritual energy taking place between him and the secondary women.  The secondary women are receiving the vulnerable guy’s spiritual energy and the vulnerable guy is receiving their spiritual energy.

The vulnerable guy has only limited exchanges of spiritual energy with other people.  For this reason, the vulnerable guy is not usually aware of the exchanges of spiritual energy that go on between him and other people.  But when he meets a primary woman such as the one in the example given above, he is able to pick up spiritual energy from her.  But he isn’t really impressed by the exchanges of spiritual energy between him and the primary woman because he knows that she treats him in a very superficial sort of a manner (she treats him no differently than she treats most of the other people who she knows).  But he does sense that she is serving as a relay point between him and some of the women who the primary woman is acquainted with.

 

The problem that the vulnerable guy faces is that even though he is exchanging his spiritual energy with these secondary women, he is not able to develop a relationship with any of the secondary women directly.  The vulnerable guy’s relationships with the secondary women are based on the fact that the primary woman is serving as a relay point between him and the secondary women.  Due to the fact that the vulnerable guy has never experienced strong exchanges of spiritual energy with other people, these exchanges of spiritual energy seem to be magical to him.  Other people can tell that the vulnerable guy is more involved with the secondary women than he is with the primary woman, but they also believe the fantasy that was created by the vulnerable guy's family.

There is an old saying that says that you reap what you sow.  But there are a lot of people who don’t like the idea that you have to work at planting seeds if you want to have a harvest.  A lot of people prefer to reap where they don’t sow.  Most people will believe the fantasy about the vulnerable guy that was created by his family, but there are some people who can see through the deception.  The people who like to reap where they don’t sow know that the vulnerable guy does not want to get into another situation where he gets to know a group of people and the end result is that the primary woman is mad because she thinks that he has been leading her friends on emotionally and the secondary women are mad at the vulnerable guy because they feel that he has been leading them on.  The ones who like to reap where they don’t sow know that the vulnerable guy’s emotions are not strong, but they also know that he gets very nervous when he feels that he is getting involved in a situation where a new primary woman is going to relay his emotions to secondary women who she knows and where the end result is going to be that everybody will be upset with him. 

The people who like to reap where they don’t sow might start a rumor saying that the vulnerable guy wants to get involved with the primary woman.  The people who start this type of rumor know that it will make the primary woman angry and it will make the secondary women angry.  The vulnerable guy will get nervous when he senses that these people are becoming angry with him. 

The people who like to reap where they don’t sow (and who take advantage of people who are vulnerable) can become just as important (or maybe even more important) to the spiritual and psychological development of the vulnerable guy as the people who the vulnerable guy actually forms relationships with.  The vulnerable guy might eventually come to an awareness that his relationships with secondary women are based on his interfacing with a primary woman who relays his spiritual energy to secondary women who she knows.  But the vulnerable guy also needs to be aware that some of the secondary women who he meets might also be women who like to reap where they don’t sow.

The problem that the vulnerable guy faces when he is dealing with secondary women who like to reap where they don’t sow is that he can sense at a very deep level that there is a magical exchange of spiritual energy taking place between him and these secondary women.  He will sense this exchange of spiritual energy because a primary woman is relaying spiritual energy between him and the secondary women.  It will be natural for him to think that he should be able to develop some sort of a positive relationship with them. 

After a woman she likes to reap where she doesn’t sow (a rough woman) embarrasses the vulnerable guy in a group situation he might try to make friends with her hoping that by being nice to her he might be able to prevent her from embarrassing him in the future.  But he needs to realize that the secondary woman who likes to reap where she doesn’t sow knows that the vulnerable guy’s relationship with her is based on a primary woman relaying the vulnerable guy’s spiritual energy to her.  This secondary woman who likes to reap where she doesn’t sow knows that the vulnerable guy’s family created a fantasy about him that said he was capable of normal spiritual exchanges with other people.  When he gets to know her she will try to make him feel that the fantasy that was created by the vulnerable guy’s family was correct and that he really is capable of normal exchanges of spiritual energy with other people.  She will try to lead him into thinking that she will not want to hurt him anymore because she and the vulnerable guy are now spiritually connected.

When this rough secondary woman who likes to reap where she doesn’t sow eventually embarrasses the vulnerable guy again in another group situation the vulnerable guy might start to think that there never was a spiritual connection between himself and the secondary woman who likes to reap where she doesn’t sow.  The vulnerable guy needs to realize that spiritual connections do exist between him and other people all of the time. 

The vulnerable guy might have developed a pattern of trying to be nice to women who were mean to him to try to stop them from hurting him.  He might have met several women during his life who pretended that they liked him for a short period of time.  These women would gain his confidence by being nice to him for a short period of time and then would once again embarrass him in front of a group of other people.  The rough woman knows that the vulnerable guy has spiritual connections with other people but that he is not usually aware of those spiritual connections.  By being nice to him for a short period of time she helps him to develop the spiritual links that he has but that are too weak for him to usually be aware of.  But then just about the time that the vulnerable guy starts to become aware of his spiritual links the rough woman stops being nice to him.  The people who have been observing the situation will ask her why she stopped the relationship that appeared to be developing between the rough woman and the vulnerable guy.  The rough woman will at this point create a lie about the vulnerable guy that says that the vulnerable guy was too rough for her.  She gets away with this because when she was nice to the vulnerable guy, it made people think that the vulnerable guy must be rough.

 

 

The vulnerable guy will obviously have a lack of spiritual energy and he will have trouble relating to other people because they will think that he is different from them.  But early in his life the vulnerable guy might meet someone in his family’s immediate community who is similar to the rough woman in our example.  She will act like she is becoming friends with the vulnerable guy but she will just be setting him up.  The people in the family’s immediate community (including the vulnerable guy’s family members) will think that she would not like the vulnerable guy unless she thought that he was rough.  When she ends the relationship with him and people ask her the reason why, she will create a lie that says that he was too rough for her. The people observing the situation will start to think that the vulnerable guy is rough. 

Because of his experience with the rough woman the vulnerable guy might develop a spiritual identity as being a person who is rough.  At this point it will become easier for the vulnerable guy’s family to give other people the impression that the vulnerable guy was given an equal role in his family.  Now that he has been given a spiritual identity, it will appear to other people that he is living in a real world.  

 


The rough woman gave the vulnerable guy a spiritual identity, which was something that he did not have before.  After that his family and other people who he met in his life (at school and at work) were able to have practical exchanges of spiritual energy with him based on the spiritual identity that he was given.  As he went through his life he brought more and more people into his fantasy spiritual world.

But it might be useful for the vulnerable guy to realize that instead of living in one fantasy world, he might actually be living in two fantasy worlds.  For example, the vulnerable guy's family might have been embarrassed when the rough woman gave the vulnerable guy a spiritual identity as someone who was rough.  They might have prided themselves on being fancy people who were better than other people.  When they saw that the rough woman was able to get away with telling other people that the vulnerable guy was rough (when he actually was not rough), the vulnerable guy's family decided that they would tell other people that the vulnerable guy, like the other members of the family, was a person who was fancier than other people (when he actually was not fancy).  The vulnerable guy now had two false spiritual identities.

You might have heard people talk about how their current lover was able to tie up their emotional loose ends and was able to help to bring their life into perspective.  It was almost as if the spiritual energy that they had been exchanging with their previous lovers (who were no longer physically present) was being transferred to their new lover (who was physically present).  The vulnerable guy will also transfer the exchanges of spiritual energy that he had with people who he knew in the past to people who he knows in the present.  When the vulnerable guy meets a new man or a new woman he will start transferring to that person spiritual energy that comes from exchanges of spiritual energy that he had with other people who he knew in the past.  For this reason, as time goes by the spiritual energy being exchanged between the vulnerable guy and a new man or a new woman who he has just met might seem fairly strong.  And the new man or the new woman might have transferred to the vulnerable guy spiritual energy that they had exchanged with other vulnerable guys who they knew in the past.  

The vulnerable guy might imagine that this person cares about him deeply or is guiding him subconsciously because he can sense that he is exchanging quite a bit of spiritual energy with this new man or new woman.  He can sense that his spiritual energy is going out to the other person and that their spiritual energy is coming back to him.  But the fact that another person is exchanging spiritual energy with the vulnerable guy (even if it is more spiritual energy than the vulnerable guy has ever exchanged with another person before) does not mean that the other person cares deeply about him or that they are somehow guiding him subconsciously.  And it is also not a guarantee that the other person will want to increase the amount of spiritual energy that they are exchanging with him.  

When the vulnerable guy meets a new man or a new woman that person can sense that he is living in two fantasy spiritual worlds.  And there is a good chance that they have known other people in the past who were living in fantasy spiritual worlds.  It is possible that the new man or the new woman who the vulnerable guy meets might have been unkind to vulnerable guys in the past.  When they sensed that they were starting to exchange spiritual energy with the vulnerable guy they might have told other people that they were uncomfortable with the vulnerable guy.  They might have told other people who they knew (and who the vulnerable guy knew) that they thought that the vulnerable guy might not have a soul (or that he might not be capable of connecting with other people spiritually).

The vulnerable guy will not be able to guess that something like this might be happening because he senses that he is exchanging more spiritual energy with this person than he usually exchanges with other people.  When the relationship with the man or the woman ends the vulnerable guy might realize that he does not understand things of a spiritual nature.  The vulnerable guy might decide that he needs to make some changes and he might gain some insights into why the man or the woman ended the relationship that he thought he was developing with them.  The next time that he sees the man or the woman he is pleased that he has made progress.  He is pleased that he is no longer incorrectly imagining that he is developing a relationship with them.  He can also tell that the man or the woman can sense that he is no longer incorrectly believing that he is developing a relationship with them.  He is expecting them to be happy that he has made progress in understanding things of a spiritual nature.  Instead, they might say something like "you might think that you are reaching your goal but you are actually only sacrificing your soul".

The man or the woman had previously been telling other people that they thought the vulnerable guy might not have a soul.  So why would they now tell him that he is sacrificing his soul when he tries to make a change that might help him to develop his soul?  The man or the woman might have gotten into a pattern of taking advantage of vulnerable guys.  They might have no interest in helping vulnerable guys to develop their souls.

 

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It is easy to understand why the vulnerable guy might detach from his fancy fantasy spiritual world.  As he reaches adulthood it is easy for him to see that he is not really being accepted by these fancy people.  As he makes this realization he might feel his spiritual energy increase because he is now sending less spiritual energy out to these fancy people who were not sending very much spiritual energy back to him in return.  But after a while he will start losing his spiritual energy again and he will not understand what the problem is.  The problem is not that he was wrong for detaching himself from the fancy people who never really accepted him.  The problem is that he did not finish the job.  And the fancy people who were watching the vulnerable guy detach from them know that the vulnerable guy did not really finish the job.

 

When he was younger the vulnerable guy never thought that he needed to detach himself from rough people because he did not believe that he was rough.  But a fantasy spiritual world had been created for him by the rough people.  Because of this fact he has to figure out how to detach himself from that spiritual world.  He needs to do this to develop a stronger spiritual structure and to develop a stronger sense of self awareness.  The vulnerable guy is not really a rough person and living in a fantasy spiritual world that was based on the premise that he is rough is a major conflict for him.  But once he realizes that the people who gave him his rough spiritual identity told a lie to create his fantasy spiritual world, he might be able to start gaining the insights that he needs in order to break free from the fantasy spiritual world that was created by the rough people.

The vulnerable guy might also be confused because the fancy people and the rough people don't seem to worry too much when they see him trying to detach himself from them.  They are not worried because they know that he is thinking that he only needs to detach from one spiritual world.  But once he starts trying to detach from both of the fantasy spiritual worlds that he is a part of, he will probably start to see more resistance.  At that point both the fancy people and the rough people will realize that the vulnerable guy might actually have a chance to detach himself from his two fantasy spiritual worlds.  And in detaching himself from these two fantasy spiritual worlds that drain off a lot of his spiritual energy he might be able to start developing a stronger spiritual structure and a stronger sense of self awareness.

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