(Part Six)

(Continued From Part Five) 

Sometimes people like to compare life to a play that you might see in a theater.  But people who are spiritually and psychologically vulnerable are usually not very good at pretending and they often have trouble playing out their roles while acting in the game of life.  They may also feel that they are not being accepted by the other actors.  When spiritually and psychologically vulnerable people get involved with a new group of people and they feel that they are starting to make progress with being accepted by the other group members they may feel like they are an actor in a play where the person who was struggling starts to be accepted by people who were once hostile towards them.  And they might be suspicious that the people who seem to be starting to accept them are just playing a game to give them a false feeling of confidence so that they can laugh at them later when they "pull the plug" and stop pretending that they are accepting that spiritually and psychologically vulnerable person.  But even though the spiritually and psychologically vulnerable person knows that they are not a good actor and that the ones now seeming to accept them will eventually "pull the plug" on the emotional support that they are now giving to the spiritually and psychologically vulnerable person, the more vulnerable person really believes that they have the ability to become an actor in the theater of life who will someday become genuinely accepted by the other actors and by the audience.  In spite of all of the evidence to the contrary, why do they believe that they can become a good actor in the theater of life?

As mentioned earlier, a spiritually and psychologically vulnerable man who grew up in a middle to upper middle class family in one of the developed countries of the world might have had spiritual energy coming into them from their community early in life that cemented into their souls a firm belief in the idea that "you should not give a sucker an even break and you should also, if possible, make every effort you can to "break" (or destroy) anybody who is a sucker, and anybody who is weak".  But they also had ideas cemented into their souls at an early age saying that a man should mask his aggressive nature by having a surface personality that says to the world that they are a kind, good, and compassionate person.  They know at a very deep subconscious level that they did in fact have the same types of spiritual energy cemented into their souls at an early age as did people in their own original spiritual group who had normal spiritual abilities.  Throughout their lives they have been sending out subconscious spiritual messages to other people that are similar to the subconscious spiritual messages that people from their own original spiritual group with normal spiritual abilities have been sending out.  So if they are similar to people in their own spiritual group in terms of the types of subconscious spiritual messages that they are sending out, it would seem logical to them that they would also be the same in terms of being able to become good actors in the theater of life.

Individuals who have normal spiritual abilities seem to have a pretty good understanding as to the nature of the problems that spiritually and psychologically vulnerable people face.  But they are not always willing to share their knowledge with spiritually and psychologically vulnerable people.  They often would prefer to leave the more vulnerable person clueless rather than to share their knowledge.  But if they were to open up and give some useful advice to a spiritually and psychologically vulnerable person they might say something like the following:  "You were born into the same snobbish elitist spiritual group that I was born into.  We had ideas cemented into our souls at an early age saying that we should crush people from spiritual groups that were weaker than our own while showing the world a surface personality that masked our true nature.  As the years went by I learned to harness my spiritual energy and I learned to turn my emotions on and off depending on the circumstance.  You might say that I became a very good actor.  That is where we are very different.  You are not a good actor because your emotions are not yet fully developed.  You should concentrate on learning to control the unfiltered spiritual messages that you have been unintentionally sending out to other people throughout your life.  Those unfiltered spiritual messages that you send out do not seem to match your true feelings.  This confuses people but with insight into what is happening you might be able to learn to communicate better with other people and you might be able to develop better relationships.  While you and I may be the same in terms of the types of subconscious spiritual messages that were cemented into our souls at an early age, the path that I have taken in my life and the path that you have taken in your life are very different." 

There are many countries in the world where you can obtain a restraining order to keep someone you know from hurting you.  Sometimes one party in a divorce will ask for a restraining order against their former partner if they think the former partner might try to find them and abuse them after the divorce is final.  And if the person who was issued the restraining order does not comply with that order, the person who obtained the restraining order can ask the police to arrest that person.  A person might also get a restraining order if their former partner pays them unwelcome visits (even though their former partner may not be physically abusive during the visits).  Sometimes when a relationship ends just the sight of your former partner can cause you emotional damage.  Many countries in the world recognize that fact and they have laws to protect people who do not want to see their former partners.

As discussed earlier, people who are spiritually and psychologically vulnerable might sometimes start to think that they might be getting emotionally involved with people who are not really involved with them.  When the other person senses the strong vibrations that they are receiving from the spiritually and psychologically vulnerable person they may make hints to the more vulnerable person that they should "back off" and direct their energy towards pursuits that have a greater chance of success or perhaps towards people who really might want to get involved with them.  The spiritually and psychologically vulnerable person might think that this is unfair because the relatively small amount of spiritual energy that was being exchanged between themselves and the other person never really developed into what most people would call a relationship and because they are being treated by the other person in a manner similar to how a person might treat someone who they had just gotten a divorce from.

The spiritually and psychologically vulnerable person in this situation has just been issued a Spiritual Restraining Order (a non-written spiritual order that is enforced by all of the members of society who will send negative spiritual messages into the spiritually and psychologically vulnerable person if they continue sending unwanted spiritual vibrations to the person who has requested the Spiritual Restraining Order).  The other person requested the Spiritual Restraining Order by sending out subconscious spiritual messages to the world (or at least to everyone they know) saying that the spiritually and psychologically vulnerable person has developed a spiritual relationship with them that they do not want to be involved in and that they feel that the spiritually and psychologically vulnerable person is going to try to continue to pursue that relationship against their wishes.

It is important for the spiritually and psychologically vulnerable person to learn how to comply with the Spiritual Restraining Order and to stop sending unwanted spiritual vibrations to the person who has filed the complaint.  As part of their efforts to comply with the Spiritual Restraining Order it might be useful for them to learn to understand the five deadly sins that can cause people of the opposite sex and also their own sex to have a Spiritual Restraining Order placed on them.  (There are actually seven deadly sins.  Those sins are: Wrath, Lust, Greed, Pride, Envy, Gluttony, and Sloth.  But for the purposes of this analysis, Gluttony [eating or consuming more than you really need] and Sloth [not working hard enough] will not be covered further because those sins are not the ones that result in spiritually and psychologically vulnerable people being issued Spiritual Restraining Orders).  Below are the five deadly sins that can create problems for people who are spiritually and psychologically vulnerable:

Wrath - Anger of a very strong and intense nature

Lust - A very strong sexual desire

Greed - Wanting to possess a lot more than you really need

Pride - Possessing a lot more self esteem than is really necessary.  An overestimation of your position in life, your talent, your looks, etc.  Finding people who you consider to be beneath you to be disgusting.

Envy - Wanting to have something that is possessed by another person.  Feeling angry and resentful when you think about another person's success.

As discussed earlier, people who have normal spiritual abilities often have a lot of negative types of spiritual ideas cemented into their souls at an early age by the spiritual groups that they are born into.  They may have an inclination towards Wrath, Lust, Greed, Pride, and Envy from a very early age but as they get older they learn how to harness their spiritual energy and learn how to mask their more negative qualities with a surface personality that says to the world that they are a kind, good, and compassionate person.  The sins of Wrath, Lust, Greed, Pride, and Envy are not as destructive for a person with normal spiritual abilities as they are for a person who is spiritually and psychologically vulnerable.  The people who have normal spiritual abilities learn how to filter and control the subconscious spiritual messages they send out to other people that are composed of Wrath, Lust, Greed, Pride, and Envy.  Those people who have normal spiritual abilities are expected to have Wrath, Lust, Greed, Pride, and Envy and they are usually not issued Spiritual Restraining Orders for having those qualities (but people with normal spiritual abilities are sometimes issued real written restraining orders by real courts).

Spiritually and psychologically vulnerable people, like people with normal spiritual abilities, also have an inclination from an early age towards Wrath, Lust, Greed, Pride, and Envy.  As they get older they form relationships with people of the opposite sex and with people of their own sex.  Like with people who have normal spiritual abilities, their feelings of Wrath, Lust, Greed, Pride, and Envy become part of the basis for developing their early relationships with other people.  But while people of their own gender will start to develop successful relationships with members of the opposite sex, spiritually and psychologically vulnerable people are likely to meet with failed attempts at developing emotional closeness with members of the opposite sex.  When they fail to make an attachment with someone of the opposite sex it will be natural for them to try to get attached to someone else from the opposite sex who is different from the first person who they tried to bond with.  When the second attempt fails they may try to get involved with a third person of the opposite sex who is different from the first two.  By the time they reach adulthood they may have made failed attempts at romantic relationships with several different types of people from the opposite sex.  In adulthood, when people observe them with members of the opposite sex they may say that the spiritually and psychologically vulnerable person has a problem with the destructive sin of Lust.  Their sexual desire may seem to be stronger than that of people with normal spiritual abilities because they will be attracted to so many different types of people of the opposite sex while most people will only be attracted to one or two types of people from the opposite sex.

In regards to their relationships with people of their own sex, spiritually and psychologically vulnerable people often appear to be guilty of four out of the five deadly (or destructive) sins listed above: Wrath, Greed, Pride, and Envy.  While people of their own sex with normal spiritual abilities will form fairly strong relationships with one or two types of people from their own sex who they are competing with early in life (and who they will therefore develop feelings of Wrath, Greed, Pride, and Envy with), people who are spiritually and psychologically vulnerable will (like with their relationships with members of the opposite sex) try to bond unsuccessfully with several different types of people from their own sex who they are competing with early in life (and who they will therefore develop feelings of Wrath, Greed, Pride, and Envy with).  For this reason, when in adulthood people observe them with members of their own sex, they may say that the spiritually and psychologically vulnerable people seem to have a problem with the destructive sins of Wrath, Greed, Pride, and Envy (their "sins" will seem to be stronger than those of people of their own sex who have normal spiritual abilities because they are involved with so many different types of people from their own sex while most people of their own sex will only really be involved with one or two types of people of their own sex).  For this reason, the spiritually and psychologically vulnerable person will be sending out more subconscious spiritual messages composed of Wrath, Greed, Pride, and Envy to more people than people who have normal spiritual abilities send out.  As they get older some members of their own sex may, like some members of the opposite sex do, start to send out subconsciously spiritual messages to the world (or to other people who they know) asking society to put a Spiritual Restraining Order on the spiritually and psychologically vulnerable person.  Spiritually and psychologically vulnerable people often find themselves being slapped with Spiritual Restraining Orders both from members of the opposite sex and from members of their own sex. 

Spiritually and psychologically vulnerable people may have weaker levels of spiritual energy than do people with normal spiritual abilities, but they still project out to the world the same types of subconscious spiritual messages as do people who have normal spiritual abilities.  But while people with normal spiritual abilities do not really have a need to get rid of their Wrath, Lust, Greed, Pride, and Envy (because those personal traits do not interfere with their basic ability to function in the world), people who are spiritually and psychologically vulnerable have been burdened down with Spiritual Restraining Orders that will cause society to pump negative subconscious spiritual messages into their souls every time they send out feelings of Wrath, Greed, Lust, Pride, and Envy to other people.  While we all need a little bit of Wrath, Lust, Greed, Pride, and Envy in our lives, people who are spiritually and psychologically vulnerable would probably be able to get people to start sending them less negative subconscious spiritual messages (the punishment they receive when they violate the Spiritual Restraining Orders that have been placed on them) if they could learn to, with insight, start to cut back on the amount of subconscious spiritual messages they send out to other people that are composed of uncontrolled and unfiltered Wrath, Lust, Greed, Pride, and Envy.

(Continued In Part Seven)

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