As science has advanced over the past century a lot of people have started doubting the myths that their religions are based on.  Some of these people who doubted the religious myths started to think that they might be wrong because when they raised questions about the religious myths to a church person, they could feel the wrath of God coming into them from that angry church person.  They could sense that the church person was connected to something outside of themselves but actually the church person was only spiritually connected to other church people.

We need to remember that even though our religious myths might not be true, exchanges of spiritual energy take place between ourselves and other people through the Collective Subconscious.  Thousands of years ago people from around the world created religions to help explain the invisible exchanges of spiritual energy that take place between us and other people.  

Shortly after a child is born they start picking up subconscious spiritual thoughts and feelings from other people. This spiritual information travels between their soul and the souls of other people in a manner that is similar to the way that radio, television, and cell phone signals are sent. Their thoughts and feelings are constantly being exchanged with those of other people through the Collective Subconscious.

 

But it is not a perfect world and sometimes things don’t happen as they should.  Sometimes when a new member is born into a family the new member will only be given a small role in the spiritual entity that makes up their family.  The new family member will only be able to develop limited exchanges of spiritual energy with other people but the other family members will try to make other people think that the new family member actually does have an equal role in the family.

 

When a vulnerable guy who was given a limited role in his family starts to develop relationships with people outside of his family, the people who he meets will be confused.  Because of the fact that they believe the family’s myth that he is capable of developing normal exchanges of spiritual energy with other people, they will wonder why they are only able to develop a practical, limited type of a relationship with him. 

Most people develop a deep set of emotions (the most important port of their soul) and a practical set of emotions (the day-to-day practical side of their soul).  An example of a person using their practical emotions might be a high school girl merging the practical part of her soul with the souls of her fellow students for the purpose of getting their votes when she is trying to become the president of her class.

 

 

We allow those myths to go deep into our souls because the myths will come into us in a magical way (through the automatic exchange of subconscious spiritual energy with other people through the Collective Subconscious).  For this reason, if a vulnerable guy meets a woman who is only merging the practical part of her soul with him, there will be quite a bit going on.

The woman who the vulnerable guy meets is also exchanging her spiritual energy through the Collective Subconscious with other people who she knows.  A lot of spiritually and psychologically vulnerable guys might have gotten into a pattern where they are interfacing with a woman (who we will call a “primary woman”) who is only merging the practical part of her soul with the vulnerable guy.

The primary woman is relaying the spiritual energy that she picks up from the vulnerable guy to other women who she shows (who we will call “secondary women”) through the Collective Subconscious. And the primary woman might also be relaying the spiritual energy of the secondary women who she knows to the vulnerable guy through the Collective Subconscious.  The vulnerable guy might be picking up some strong emotional feelings because he can sense that there is a magical exchange of spiritual energy taking place between him and the secondary women. The secondary women are receiving the vulnerable guy’s spiritual energy and the vulnerable guy is receiving their spiritual energy.

 

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The spiritually and psychologically vulnerable guy has only limited exchanges of spiritual energy with other people.  For this reason the vulnerable guy is not usually aware of the exchanges of spiritual energy that go on between him and other people.  But when he meets a primary woman such as the one in the example given above, he is able to pick up spiritual energy from her.

But he isn’t really impressed by the exchanges of spiritual energy between himself and the primary woman because he knows that she treats him in a very superficial sort of a manner (she treats him no differently than she treats most of the other people who she knows).  But he does sense that she is serving as a relay point between him and some of the women who the primary woman is acquainted with.

 

The problem that the vulnerable guy faces is that even though he is exchanging his spiritual energy with these secondary women, he is not able to develop a relationship with any of the secondary women directly.  The vulnerable guy’s relationships with the secondary women are based on the fact that the primary woman is serving as a relay point between him and the secondary women.

The secondary women might become angry with him. They might think that he started an emotional involvement with them and then did not follow through and failed to develop a relationship with them.  The secondary women do not realize that the vulnerable guy’s relationships with them require the involvement of the primary woman.  The emotional involvements that the vulnerable guy develops with the secondary women seem magical to him because he can sense that the primary woman is relaying his spiritual energy through the Collective Subconscious to secondary women who she knows and that she is also relaying the spiritual energy of the secondary women who she knows to him through the Collective Subconscious.

Due to the fact that the vulnerable guy has never experienced strong exchanges of spiritual energy with other people, these exchanges of spiritual energy seem magical to him.  Other people can tell that the vulnerable guy is more involved with the secondary women than he is with the primary woman, but they also believe the myth that was created by the vulnerable guy’s family.  Because other people (including the primary woman and the secondary women) believe the myth created by the vulnerable guy’s family that said that he was capable of developing deep relationships, they assume that he is being foolish for not further developing the relationships that he has started with the secondary women.  But there are a few other people who understand what is going on.

There is an old saying that you reap what you sow.  But there are a lot of people who don’t like the idea that you have to work at planting seeds if you want to have a harvest.  A lot of people prefer to reap where they don’t sow.  Most people will believe the myth about the vulnerable guy that was created by his family, but there are some people who can see through the deception. The ones who like to reap where they don’t sow know that the vulnerable guy does not want to get into another situation where he gets to know a group of people and the end result is that the primary woman is mad because she thinks that he has been leading her friends on emotionally and the secondary women are mad at the vulnerable guy because they feel that he has been leading them on.  The people who like to reap where they don’t sow know that the vulnerable guy’s emotions are not strong, but they also know that he gets very nervous when he feels that he is getting involved in a situation where a new primary woman is going to relay his emotions to secondary women who she knows and where the end result is going to be that everybody will be upset with him.

The vulnerable guy’s family created a myth that said the vulnerable guy’s emotions were stronger than they actually were.  The people who like to reap where they don’t sow will watch very carefully when the vulnerable guy starts to get to know a new group of people.  They will see that he is exchanging some spiritual energy with the primary woman and with the secondary women.  The people who like to reap where they don’t sow might start a rumor saying that the vulnerable guy wants to get involved with the primary woman.  The people who start this type of a rumor know that it will make the primary woman angry and that it will make the secondary women angry.  The vulnerable guy will get nervous when he senses that these people are becoming angry with him.

At this point the people who like to reap where they don’t sow will try to make everybody think that the rumor is true by pointing out to everyone that the vulnerable guy’s face is turning red.  They will say that he is obviously embarrassed because what they said was true.  When this happens people will start to think that the rumor must be true.  They will misinterpret the vulnerable guy’s response.  When the people in the group see the vulnerable guy’s face turn red they seeing a combination of his weak emotions towards the various women involved mixed with the feelings of frustration and panic that he feels whenever people try to create a myth about him that is not true.  There are two reasons why the vulnerable guy panics when he gets involved in this sort of a situation.

The first reason the vulnerable guy panics is that he knows that it is now going to be hard for him to make friends with this new group of people.  Now that they believe something about him that is not true, it will be hard for him to form any genuine relationships with these people.  The second reason that he panics is that he realizes that the same thing might happen with the next group of people that he meets.  The vulnerable guy is afraid that when he meets a new group of people in the future, there might also be people in that group who like to reap where they don’t sow.  In every group there seems to be at least one person who takes pleasure in reaping a harvest from the seeds of spiritual and psychological vulnerability that are planted deep into the souls of vulnerable people early in their lives.

As mentioned earlier, a vulnerable guy is not really impressed by his exchanges of spiritual energy with primary women because he knows that these women treat him in a very superficial sort of a manner.  But he does sense that primary women serve as a relay point between him and some of the secondary women who the primary woman is acquainted with.

A vulnerable guy can get into the same sort of a situation when he meets a primary man as he does when he meets a primary woman.  The vulnerable guy can sense that there is some sort of a very deep and magical male bonding taking place between him and the secondary men who the primary man is sending his spiritual energy to through the Collection Subconscious.

 

 

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If the vulnerable guy knows some of these secondary men who are receiving his spiritual energy through the Collective Subconscious, these men might think that the vulnerable guy has started the male bonding process with them and then has not followed through.  The secondary men do not realize that the vulnerable guy’s relationships with them require the involvement of a primary man.  Because people believe the myth created by the vulnerable guy’s family that said he was capable of developing deep relationships, they assume that he is being foolish for not further developing the friendships that he has started with the secondary men. They do not understand that he cannot develop a friendship with any of the secondary men without a primary man serving as a relay point.

The people who like to reap where they don’t sow (and who take advantage of people who are spiritually and psychologically vulnerable) can become just as important (or maybe even more important) to the spiritual and psychological development of the vulnerable guy as the people who the vulnerable guy actually forms relationships with.

The vulnerable guy might come to an awareness that his relationships with secondary women are based on his interfacing with a primary woman who relays his spiritual energy to secondary women who she knows.  And he might come to an awareness that his relationships with secondary men are based on his interfacing with a primary man who relays his spiritual energy to secondary men who he knows.  The vulnerable guy needs to be aware that some of the secondary women who he meets might also be women who like to reap where they don’t sow.  And the vulnerable guy also needs to be aware that some of the secondary men who he meets might also be men who like to reap where they don’t sow. 

The problem that the vulnerable guy faces when he is dealing with secondary women and secondary men who like to reap where they don’t sow is that he can sense at a very deep level that there is a magical exchange of spiritual energy taking place between him and these secondary women and secondary men.  The vulnerable guy can sense this exchange of spiritual energy because primary women and primary men relay spiritual energy between him and the secondary women and the secondary men.  It will be natural for him to think that he should be able to develop some sort of a positive relationship with them.

After a woman or a man who likes to reap where they don’t sow (a rough woman or a rough man) embarrasses the vulnerable guy in a group situation he might try to make friends with that person hoping that by being nice to them he might be able to prevent that person from embarrassing him in the future.  But he needs to realize that the rough secondary women and rough secondary men who like to reap where they don’t sow know that the vulnerable guy’s relationship with them is based on a primary woman or primary man relaying the vulnerable guy’s spiritual energy to the secondary woman or the secondary man.

The secondary woman or secondary man who likes to reap where they don’t sow knows that the vulnerable guy’s family created a myth about him that said he was capable of normal spiritual exchanges with other people.  When he gets to know the rough woman or rough man that person will try to make him feel that the myth that was created by the vulnerable guy’s family was correct and that he really is capable of normal exchanges of spiritual energy with other people.  That person will try to lead him into thinking that they will not want to hurt him anymore because that person and the vulnerable guy are now spiritually connected.

When this rough secondary woman or rough secondary man who likes to reap where they don’t sow eventually embarrass the vulnerable guy again in another group situation, the vulnerable guy might think that there never was a spiritual connection between him and the secondary woman or secondary man who like to reap where they don’t sow.  The vulnerable guy needs to realize that spiritual connections do exist between him and other people all of the time.

One of the side effects of the vulnerable guy’s lack of awareness of his spirituality is that it is easy for people such as the rough secondary woman and the rough secondary man who like to reap where they don’t sow to embarrass him.  The rough woman and the rough man know that people tend to transfer the exchanges of spiritual energy that they had with people who they knew in the past to people who they know in the present.  The rough woman and the rough man also know that people such as the vulnerable guy also tend to transfer their exchanges of spiritual energy from people who they knew in the past to people who they know in the present.  When a vulnerable guy meets a rough woman or a rough man who likes to reap where they don’t sow he will transfer to that person the spiritual energy exchanges that he had in the past with other rough women and rough men.

The vulnerable guy might have developed a pattern of trying to be nice to women and men who were mean to him to try to stop them from hurting him.  He might have met several women and men during his life who pretended that they liked him for a short period of time.  These women and men would gain his confidence by being nice to him for a short period of time and then would once again embarrass him in front of a group of other people.

During the period of time when the rough woman and rough man who like to reap where they don’t sow are being nice to the vulnerable guy, the people who are observing what is happening will think that maybe the vulnerable guy must be kind of rough too because the rough woman and rough man are acting as if they really like the vulnerable guy.  The people watching what is happening know that the rough woman and rough man would not want to get involved with a guy who was not rough.

These rough women and rough men know that the vulnerable guy has spiritual connections with other people but that he is not usually aware of those spiritual connections.  By being nice to him for a short period of time they help him to start developing the spiritual links that he has but that are too weak for him to usually be aware of.  But then just about the time that he starts to become aware of his spiritual links the rough woman or rough man will stop being nice to him.

The people who have been observing the situation will ask the rough woman or rough man why they stopped the relationship that appeared to be developing between the rough woman or rough man and the vulnerable guy.  The rough woman or rough man will at this point create a myth about the vulnerable guy that says that the vulnerable guy was too rough for their taste.  They get away with this because when the rough woman or rough man was nice to the vulnerable guy, it made people think that the vulnerable guy must be rough.

Imagine that there was a primary woman (a woman who relays spiritual energy between the vulnerable guy and secondary women) in the group that was observing the situation when the rough woman and rough man were temporarily being nice to the vulnerable guy.  Throughout her life she had been in situations where a rough person was temporarily being nice to a vulnerable guy.  Throughout the primary woman’s life, when she was in these situations she had assumed that the rough woman or rough man was impressed by the vulnerable guy’s roughness. The primary woman had fantasized many times about how it might feel to get deeply involved with one of these rough guys. 

So she decides to try to get to know him better.  When she does all of those fantasies start coming back to her.  But as things get more serious she becomes disappointed because he is not satisfying her need for a rough guy in the way that she had thought he would be able to do.  She can’t figure out why the passion died so quickly.  The problem was that the primary woman had based her fantasies on a myth, not on reality.

Now imagine that there was a primary man (a man who relays spiritual energy between vulnerable guys and secondary men) in the group observing when the rough woman and rough man were temporarily being nice to the vulnerable guy.  Throughout his life he had been in situations where a rough woman or a rough man was temporarily being nice to a vulnerable guy.  Throughout the primary man’s life, when he was in these situations where a rough woman or a rough man was temporarily being nice to a vulnerable guy, he had assumed that the rough woman or rough man was impressed by the vulnerable guy’s roughness.  The primary man had thought many times that it might be interesting to someday become friends with one of these rough guys.

So he decides to try to get to know him better. When he does he starts to remember the times in the past when he had thought about making friends with one of these rough guys.  But as he starts to get to know him better he realizes that he was wrong about the vulnerable guy.  He cannot figure out why he had judged the vulnerable guy so incorrectly.  The problem was that the primary man had based his judgment on a myth, not on reality.

The rough women and rough men who like to reap where they don’t sow enjoy being with the vulnerable guy not because they like the guy but because they know that the false sense of security that they are giving the vulnerable guy will hurt him when the rough woman or the rough man eventually pulls the plug and starts to embarrass him once again.  But these rough women and rough men might be surprised to learn that what they did changed the vulnerable guy’s life.

When a primary woman gets involved with a vulnerable guy because she was misled into thinking that he might be rough, she will increase the amount of spiritual energy that she is exchanging with him.  But due to the fact that she was originally only serving as a relay point between the vulnerable guy and secondary women who she knew, she will not be able to exchange spiritual energy directly with the vulnerable guy.

 

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When a primary man becomes friends with a vulnerable guy because he was misled into thinking that the vulnerable guy was rough, he will also increase the amount of spiritual energy that he is exchanging with the vulnerable guy.  But due to the fact that the primary man was originally only serving as a relay point between the vulnerable guy and secondary men who he knew, he will not be able to exchange spiritual energy directly with the vulnerable guy.

 

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The primary woman or primary man knows that the vulnerable guy had previously thought of them as being superficial but now that they have gotten to know him better they can sense at a very deep level that he is exchanging his spiritual energy with them through the Collective Subconscious using secondary women and secondary men as a relay point.

A problem that the vulnerable guy faces is that even though he has now exchanged his spiritual energy with a primary woman and a primary man, he is not able to develop a relationship or a friendship with a primary woman or a primary man directly.  The vulnerable guy’s relationships with primary women and primary men are based on secondary women or secondary men serving as a relay point.

Another problem that the vulnerable guy has when trying to get to know primary women and primary men is that they only got involved with him because they were misled by a rough woman or a rough man into thinking that the vulnerable guy was rough. Now when he meets a new primary woman or primary man that person will probably be upset with him for starting a friendship or a relationship with them and then not following through (and failing to develop either a friendship or a relationship with the primary woman or the primary man).  The new primary woman or primary man will not understand that the vulnerable guy cannot develop any sort of a relationship with them without the assistance of secondary women or secondary men who serve as a relay point and send the vulnerable guy’s spiritual energy to the primary woman or primary man. 

They will also not understand that the vulnerable guy cannot develop any sort of a relationship with them without the assistance of a rough secondary woman or a rough secondary man who will embarrass the vulnerable guy in front of a group of other people and then pretend to be friends with him. When the rough woman or rough man ends their temporary friendship with the vulnerable guy they tell other people that they ended the friendship because he was too rough for them.  The rough image that was given to the vulnerable guy was really the main reason that the primary woman and the primary man wanted to get involved with him.

 

When these people pray to their God they are picturing in the minds a "person" who represents the combined spiritual energy of all of the church people who hold very conservative beliefs. These conservative church people have real friends in the lives but when their friends are not around (or when they are under pressure) they might seek comfort from their God "person".

When these church people meet someone such as the vulnerable guy in our example at their school or at their place of work they might try to take advantage of him by making him (and other people) believe in the myth that the vulnerable guy is capable of normal exchanges of spiritual energy with other people. They know that he has developed a series of relationships throughout his life that have failed because they were based on the false assumption that he was capable of developing normal exchanges of spiritual energy with other people.  In a similar manner to the rough women and the rough men who he has known they will try to give him a temporary feeling of acceptance.

They might try to give him the impression that things will be different this time and that they will help him to improve his relationships with other people.  But as soon as they gain his trust they will embarrass him in front of a group of people in the same way that other people have embarrassed him in the past.

The vulnerable guy knows that he has spiritual links with other people but that his spiritual links are just weaker than the spiritual links that a lot of other people have.  He has real live friends like the church person does and he also has a spiritual friend that is similar to the church person's "God".

When the vulnerable guy can display that he is not embarrassed by the church person in our example who tries to hurt him, he will notice that this person will become very angry in a similar manner to the anger that a person might notice when they question religious myths when they are talking to a church person. When the vulnerable guy is no longer frightened by the myth that makes it hard for him to develop good relationships with other people, he shouldn't be surprised if the people who created the myth become angry with him. He might get nervous when he senses their anger because he can sense that the angry church person is connected spiritually to something outside of themselves.

But now that he understands spiritual things better than before he knows that this angry church person is at that moment spiritually connected to other conservative church people. The church person is getting spiritual support from their spiritual entity. The other people in the spiritual entity also do not want to see victims of myths start to gain insight into (and break free from) the myths that have been created about them and that have hurt them.

We might think that people who hold onto myths are harmless and that their myths cannot really hurt anybody. But there are some myths (such as those that are created about vulnerable people) that really can do damage to other people.


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