One evening in the spring of 2008 a young man named Dan, who had lived in Chicago for several years, and his friend Thomas, who was a college student in Chicago, were on their way to visit the pastor of a church in the Chicago area who Thomas had met on the airplane when he went back to Los Angeles for his spring break a few weeks earlier.  When the pastor from Chicago introduced himself to Thomas on the airplane he told Thomas that he could call him Pastor Ron.  (Dan, Thomas, and Pastor Ron are people who are real for the purposes of this story but who are not real in real life).

Dan and Thomas had visited Pastor Ron before so when they got to Pastor Ron's church they went to a side door that they knew would be open and they went straight to Pastor Ron's office.  After a couple of minutes of exchanging greetings Pastor Ron said "Thomas, on the phone you said that you and Dan had some questions about spiritual things that you guys have been discussing recently.  If you or Dan could start out by telling me some of the things that you guys have been discussing recently, I'd be happy to give you any insights that I might have when you are done."

"That sounds good", said Thomas.  "Pastor Ron, the last time that Dan and I were here you explained to us that when a family is going through a hard time (such as a death in the family or a financial set back) and a new family member comes along, there is a danger that some of the more aggressive and unkind members of the community that the family is a part of will start to put increased amounts of pressure on the family in an effort to hurt the family at a time when they are down and vulnerable.  Some families can handle this type of pressure and humiliation better than others, but it is not easy for anyone to feel negative spiritual energy coming into them from members of their community when they feel that those people should be trying to help them in their time of difficulty.  You told us you believe that when a family is pressured in this sort of a way and a new member is born into the family, there is a danger that the family will transfer the negative spiritual energy that is coming into them from the members of their community that are pressuring the family to the new family member.  The other family members are able to keep their equilibrium because they do not have to absorb the negative spiritual energy that was previously coming into them.  You told us you think that there are quite a few spiritually and psychologically vulnerable people (people who have had their spiritual energy stolen from them by other people in the past) whose birth might have occurred at a time that was not convenient for their family.  Because of this fact (and because the family decided to put the blame on the new member of the family) the new family member developed a reputation in their community as being a person who liked to hurt other people because it was believed that their birth hurt their family.  You told us that if this happened to a person this reputation (or spiritual branding) that was given to them by the community that they were a part of would have followed them as they went through school and also later on when they started their working life.  You gave us an example to explain what might be going on between a person who has been spiritually branded as a person who likes to hurt other people and the people who they meet.  You asked us to picture in our minds that when we are talking to another person, we send them spiritual energy.  We have some conscious control over this spiritual energy (which we call personal spiritual energy).  You asked us to picture in our minds that we also send the person who we are talking to a more subconscious type of spiritual energy.  This spiritual energy is being relayed by our community through us to the person who we are talking to.  This spiritual energy (which we call group spiritual energy) is comprised of the combined spiritual energy of the people who we knew when we were growing up (or our community).  You said that if our community came to a consensus that we liked to hurt other people, it would be hard for us to be effective at sending positive spiritual energy to other people because while we were sending positive spiritual energy to the other person consciously, that other person would also be picking up subconscious vibrations from us that were made up of the negative group spiritual energy that was being relayed through us by our community to that other person.  This negative group spiritual energy would communicate to the other person that we were the types of people who like to hurt other people."

"Pastor Ron", continued Thomas, "I was thinking that it would be interesting to look at what might happen when a spiritually and psychologically vulnerable person who has been given a negative spiritual branding starts to form relationships with other people.  When the spiritually and psychologically vulnerable person meets another person and that other person sees that the vulnerable person has been spiritually branded as someone who likes to hurt other people, it will be natural for that other person to think that they will be able to form a relationship with him if they are someone who likes to hurt other people.  But when the relationship comes to an end, the person who developed the relationship with the spiritually and psychologically vulnerable person will come to the conclusion that he not only likes to hurt other people but that he also likes to confuse other people.  They will come to this conclusion because they are confused about why their relationship with the vulnerable person did not work out.  It will not occur to them that the problem might be with the vulnerable person's spiritual branding (that maybe he is not really someone who likes to hurt other people).  This person who has just ended their relationship with the vulnerable person will now add something new to the vulnerable person's spiritual branding.  They will add to his spiritual branding that he also likes to confuse other people.  Now when the vulnerable person meets a new person his community will relay through him to that new person that he likes to hurt other people and that he also likes to confuse other people."

"When someone ends a relationship with a vulnerable person that was based on the vulnerable person's spiritual branding as someone who likes to hurt other people, it will usually not occur to them that the vulnerable person's spiritual branding was not accurate.  But it might be possible that some of the people who get involved with the vulnerable person might be suspicious that the vulnerable person's original spiritual branding was incorrect.  Some of these people might go out into the Collective Subconscious and try to spiritually contact the family members who set the stage originally for the spiritual branding that was given to the vulnerable person."

 

 

 

"They might try to verify with the family members through the Collective Subconscious that the vulnerable person's original spiritual branding was correct.  If the various family members who set up the vulnerable person's original incorrect spiritual branding were to start broadcasting a more accurate version of the vulnerable person's spiritual branding to the people who might from time to time (through the Collective Subconscious) question the vulnerable person's original spiritual branding, it would probably improve the vulnerable person's relationships with other people."

 

 

 

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"Pastor Ron", continued Thomas, "the last time I talked to you I told you a little bit about what happened when I went back home to Los Angeles on my spring break a few weeks ago.  I told you that I went out to dinner with my friend Jeffrey, who as you know is spiritually and psychologically vulnerable.  A friend of mine named Amber is a waitress at the restaurant where Jeffrey and I had dinner.  Amber had told me about how last summer she got involved with a guy who was spiritually and psychologically vulnerable so I asked Amber to come over to our table and tell Jeffrey about that relationship."

"After Amber told Jeffrey about her relationship with the spiritually and psychologically vulnerable guy she left our table to help some of the other customers.  At this point Jeffrey commented to me that he could feel some very positive energy being exchanged between Amber and myself, and he asked me why I had never gotten involved romantically with Amber.  I explained to Jeffrey that most people as they are growing up develop two types of emotions.  They develop deep emotions for the people who they are really close to emotionally, and they also develop a "practical" set of emotions that they use when they are in situations where they are dealing with people in their school while they are growing up or where they are dealing with people in business types of situations when they start their working lives.  I explained to Jeffrey that what I think is happening between Amber and myself is that I am exchanging my practical types of emotions with Amber and she is exchanging her practical types of emotions with me.  So even though the exchanges of spiritual energy between us are positive, those exchanges of spiritual energy are not a good basis for developing a serious relationship."

"Pastor Ron, I remember that after I told you about my conversation with Jeffrey where we talked about the difference between deep emotions and practical emotions, you said you thought that if people who were spiritually and psychologically vulnerable could realize that they have only been exchanging their spiritual energy with the practical part of the soul of the person who they think they are getting involved with, then it might be easier for them to "let go" when the other person tells them to back off."

"Last week Dan and I were talking about why it is sometimes difficult for people who are spiritually and psychologically vulnerable to avoid getting involved with somebody who is only merging the practical part of their soul with them.  While talking to Dan it occurred to me that the answer to that question might have something to do with your idea that sometimes the family of a spiritually and psychologically vulnerable person might create a myth about the vulnerable person that is not true.  For example, the family might only give the vulnerable person a small position in the spiritual entity that is made up of the various family members and then create a myth that says that the vulnerable person has an equal position in the family.  As I got to thinking about this it occurred to me that a family that creates a myth such as this one might also create another myth when the vulnerable family member starts to form relationships with people outside of their family.  The family might be afraid that someone outside of the family might help the vulnerable person to develop their emotions so that they can become stronger.  Because the family is afraid of this happening they might create a myth that says that the vulnerable person is capable of forming deep relationships with other people when the vulnerable person is actually not capable of creating deep relationships with other people.  If the family can convince the people in their community that the vulnerable person has strong emotions, then people outside of the family will think that the vulnerable family member does not need their help."  

 

 

 

 

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"Pastor Ron", continued Thomas, "as we have discussed before, everyone begins the process of exchanging their subconscious spiritual thoughts and feelings with other people shortly after they are born.  Some of the spiritual information (spiritual energy) that they "pick up" from other people early in life might contain cultural and religious myths that have no basis in fact, but those cultural and religious myths will seem magical to them and they will allow those myths to go deep into their souls because the myths will come into them in a magical way (through the automatic exchange of subconscious spiritual energy with other people through the Collective Subconscious).  When a vulnerable guy meets a woman who is only merging the practical part of her soul with him, there is more going on than just an exchange of spiritual energy between the vulnerable guy and the practical part of the woman's soul.  The woman who the vulnerable guy meets is also exchanging her spiritual energy through the Collective Subconscious with other people who she knows.  I think that a lot of spiritually and psychologically vulnerable guys might have gotten into a pattern where they are interfacing with a woman (who I call a "primary woman") who is only merging the practical part of her soul with the vulnerable guy.  But this primary woman is relaying the spiritual energy that she picks up from the vulnerable guy to other women who she knows (who I call "secondary women") through the Collective Subconscious.  And she might be relaying the spiritual energy that she picks up from the secondary women who she knows to the vulnerable guy through the Collective Subconscious.  When a vulnerable guy meets a woman who is merging only the practical part of her soul with him, at that moment he might be picking up some fairly strong emotional feelings.  He might be picking up some strong emotional feelings because he can sense that there is a magical exchange of spiritual energy taking place between himself and the secondary women who this woman knows.  The secondary women are receiving the vulnerable guy's spiritual energy from the primary woman and the vulnerable guy is receiving the spiritual energy of the secondary women from the primary woman."

 

 

 

 

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"Pastor Ron, I think that because of the fact that the vulnerable guy's family broadcasts out to the world a myth that says that the vulnerable guy has strong emotions, it does not occur to anyone (including the primary women and the secondary women who he gets to know) that his entire emotional structure might be based on his interfacing with a primary woman who relays his spiritual energy through the Collective Subconscious to the secondary women who she knows.  The end result of this is that the primary woman will be upset with the vulnerable guy for developing emotional ties with her friends who are secondary women and then not trying to further develop those relationships.  And the secondary women will be upset with the vulnerable guy because they believe that he has been "leading them on" emotionally.  The primary woman and the secondary women do not understand that the vulnerable guy needs the assistance of a primary woman (who serves as a relay point) in order for him to be able to develop a relationship with a secondary woman".

Pastor Ron thought for a moment and then said, "Thomas, I think that there is a lot of truth in what you have just said.  But I would like to add that in addition to a vulnerable guy interfacing with a primary woman, I think that a lot of vulnerable guys might have also gotten into a pattern of interfacing with a primary man who is only merging the practical part of his soul with the vulnerable guy.  In a manner similar to the primary woman in your example, the primary man is relaying the spiritual energy that he picks up from the vulnerable guy to secondary men who he knows through the Collective Subconscious.  And the primary man might also be relaying the spiritual energy that he picks up from the secondary men who he knows to the vulnerable guy through the Collective Subconscious."  

 

 

 

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"When a vulnerable guy meets a primary man who is merging only the practical part of his soul with the vulnerable guy, at that moment the vulnerable guy might be picking up some fairly strong feelings of male bonding.  He might be picking up those feelings because he can sense that there is a magical exchange of spiritual energy taking place between himself and the secondary men who the primary man knows.  The secondary men are receiving the vulnerable guy's spiritual energy from the primary man and the vulnerable guy is receiving the spiritual energy of the secondary men from the primary man."

 

 

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"Pastor Ron", said Thomas, "I really appreciate the insights that you have given us.  Thank you very much for letting us come out here tonight."

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