(Part Five)

 

(Continued From Part Four)

You may have heard people talk about how their current lover was able to tie up their emotional loose ends and was able to help to bring their life into perspective.  It was almost as if the spiritual energy that the individual had been exchanging with their previous lovers (who were no longer physically present) was transferred to their new lover (who was physically present).  Individuals who are spiritually and psychologically vulnerable also have a tendency to transfer their exchanges of spiritual energy from people who they knew in the past (people who exchanged spiritual energy with them in the past) to people who they know now (people they know in the present who exchange spiritual energy with them).  The spiritually and psychologically vulnerable individuals might find the spiritual energy that they receive from a new man or woman who they have just met to be stronger and more intense than the spiritual energy that they received from any of the other men or women who they knew in the past (and the new man or woman might find the spiritual energy that they feel coming into them from the spiritually and psychologically vulnerable person to be stronger and more intense than any of the other exchanges of spiritual energy that they have experienced from spiritually and psychologically vulnerable people in the past).  The spiritual energy being exchanged might be fairly strong and intense because the spiritually and psychologically vulnerable person has transferred the spiritual energy that they had exchanged with other people who exchanged spiritual energy with them in the past to the new man or woman and because the new man or woman has transferred the spiritual energy that they had exchanged with spiritually and psychologically vulnerable people who they knew in the past to the new vulnerable person who they have just met.

The spiritually and psychologically vulnerable person might imagine that the other person must care deeply about them (or is possibly guiding them subconsciously) because they can sense that they are exchanging quite a bit of spiritual energy with that person (possibly more spiritual energy than they have ever exchanged with anyone else).  They can sense that person's spiritual energy coming into them and they can sense that their spiritual energy is going into the other person.  But the fact that someone exchanges spiritual energy with you (even if it is more spiritual energy than you have ever exchanged with another person before) does not mean that they care about you deeply or that they are somehow intentionally guiding you subconsciously (and it does not mean that they want to increase the amount of spiritual energy that they are exchanging with you).  In fact, sometimes in these situations a person who is accustomed to having normal exchanges of spiritual energy with other people might get nervous when they sense that they are starting to have strong exchanges of spiritual energy with a person who is spiritually and psychologically vulnerable (and they might want to cut back on [rather than increase] the amounts of spiritual energy that are being exchanged).  It is hard for the spiritually and psychologically vulnerable person to understand what is going on unless they can possibly learn to understand that most people are constantly exchanging large amounts of spiritual energy with other people (and most people receive very strong and very deep spiritual and emotional guidance from the people who they exchange spiritual energy with).  Most people do not get excited by the fact that they are exchanging spiritual energy with another person.  Exchanges of spiritual energy are for most people just a normal part of life. 

In a situation where a spiritually and psychologically vulnerable person meets a man or a woman who is similar to men or women they knew in the past who have exchanged spiritual energy with them, they may sense that the other person really wants to get to know them.  For example, when a spiritually and psychologically vulnerable man meets a woman who is similar to women who have exchanged spiritual energy with him in the past, he might notice her looking at him a lot and smiling at him.  He might sense spiritual energy coming into him from her and he might sense that she seems to want to get to know him.  But he might also sense that even though he catches her looking at him and smiling at him a little more often than what might be considered to be appropriate, it does not seem that she really wants to get too close to him.  Eventually the spiritually and psychologically vulnerable man might meet a woman who is curious about why she has these mixed feelings towards men such as himself and who will make an effort to get to know him better.  If you were to ask her later for an analysis of what happened between her and the spiritually and psychologically vulnerable man, she might say something like the following:  "At first, I was reluctant to get too close to him.  I was pretty sure that it would not develop into a serious relationship so I felt kind of guilty getting involved with him.  I felt like I was maybe using him.  But still I sensed that he was reaching out to me and that he wanted to get to know me."

"After a while I realized that even though his feelings towards me were not strong enough for me to be able to get seriously involved with him, it seemed to him like our relationship was serious.  I guess he was exchanging more spiritual energy with me than he had ever exchanged with any other girl.  What he didn't realize was that even though he thought that we were exchanging a lot of spiritual energy, I was exchanging more spiritual energy with several other people (both men and women) during the time that I knew him than I was exchanging with him."

"Evidently, when he met me he sensed that I had a spiritual structure similar to some other girls who he had known in the past.  He transferred the spiritual energy he had exchanged with those other girls to me.  But he didn't realize that, compared to the amounts of spiritual energy that people usually exchange with each other, he had never really exchanged very much spiritual energy with other people.  When I met him, I could sense that he wanted to get involved with me but I didn't really understand why.  Now I understand why he was interested in me.  His relationship with me was the best relationship that he had ever had even though some of the people who knew both of us at the time thought that I was just using him.  What a lot of people had trouble understanding at that time was that there was a logical basis for us to have a relationship.  Just like he had been exchanging spiritual energy with girls similar to me (girls with normal spiritual structures) in the past, I had been exchanging spiritual energy with spiritually and psychologically vulnerable guys in the past.  It was in some ways like one of my usual relationships in that he was transferring to me spiritual energy that he had exchanged with other girls in the past and I was transferring to him spiritual energy that I had exchanged in the past with other spiritually and psychologically vulnerable guys."

When spiritually and psychologically vulnerable people meet people of the opposite sex, they will sometimes (like in the situation described above) unknowingly send out spiritual vibrations to the other person that signal to that person that the spiritually and psychologically vulnerable person wants to get emotionally involved with them.  This should not make the spiritually and psychologically vulnerable person feel ashamed.  They got caught up in emotional involvements early in life that were weak by normal standards and as they got older it was natural for them to try to transfer the spiritual energy that was developed during these early involvements to the new people who they met.  As long as they understand what is going on they should be able to learn to, with insight, stop trying to develop weak (but intense) relationships with people who are not interested in developing weak (but intense) relationships with other people.  And as other people begin to see that the spiritually and psychologically vulnerable person understands the nature of their emotional structure and that they know who they are, other people might start to become less reluctant to get close to them.

(Continued In Part Six)

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