The term “plausible deniability” has various meanings depending upon the situation. In the political world it means one thing and in the legal world it means something else. But generally speaking “plausible deniability” refers to a person doing something wrong that does not leave any firm evidence and then denying that they have done anything wrong. For example, if a person hits another person they might cut them badly or maybe knock them out. There would in this case be evidence afterward that they did something wrong.
But when a bully hurts another person by insulting them in front of a group of other people, the bully’s target might not show any immediate physical signs that they have been damaged by what has happened to them. If somebody complains about what has happened, the bully might say “What harm did I do? I did not hurt him. He looks just like he did before. What's the big deal?” In this situation there are no apparent physical signs that the bully has hurt his target.
The bully damages a person’s spirit and
this sort of damage does not always show itself immediately.
In fact, if a person is bullied over a long period of time the bully
might not even be around anymore at the time when the depression or the sickness
that was caused by the bully finally becomes obvious.
A little bit later we are going to be looking at the effects that the
bully’s plausible denials have on their vulnerable targets.
But before discussing the various techniques that the bully uses to hurt
other people and the effects that the bully’s plausible denials have on their
vulnerable targets, it might be useful to discuss the difference between the
types of spiritual worlds that most people (including bullies) live in and the
type of spiritual world that the bully’s vulnerable target lives in.
Most of us feel that we have a pretty good idea as to what is right and what is wrong, and we are usually not afraid to express our opinions about what we consider to be right and what we consider to be wrong. How can we be so sure that we are right about an issue when the guy who lives down the block from us is so sure that we are wrong about the same issue? The guy who lives down the block began a socialization process of automatically exchanging his subconscious spiritual thoughts and feelings with other people through the Collective Subconscious early in life. We also began the same socialization process early in life. How can our opinions be so different? Even though we were each developing spiritual links with other people as we were growing up, we were not developing our spiritual links with the same people.
The people who we developed our spiritual links with became an important part of our thought processes. They became like a conscience telling us what was right and what was wrong. Whenever we would express our opinions about an issue, we would feel that we were being “watched” and that we were being supported by these people who we were spiritually linked to. And the guy who lived down the block also felt that he was being “watched” and that he was being supported by the people who he was spiritually linked to. Our spiritual connections with the people who we were spiritually linked to were very real and very dynamic and those spiritual connections were a very important part of our reality. And the spiritual connections of the guy down the block were very real and very dynamic to him. Those spiritual connections were a very important part of his reality. We lived on the same block as the other guy but we lived in different spiritual worlds.
There are a lot of vulnerable people in
our physical world who do not consider their spiritual connections with other
people to be an important part of their reality. When a vulnerable guy (or
a vulnerable girl) hears other people talking about the spiritual worlds that
they live in, the vulnerable guy will not really understand what those people
are talking about.
The vulnerable guy (Number 4 below) might have originally gotten into the difficult position of not living in a real spiritual world because he was only given a limited role in this family.
If the family gives the vulnerable
guy only a limited role in the spiritual entity that is made up of the family
members (and takes away some of his spiritual energy), they might create a
fantasy about the vulnerable guy that says that he was given an equal role in
the family and that he is capable of normal exchanges of spiritual energy with
other people. But the family might have trouble convincing other
people that they actually gave the vulnerable guy an equal role in the
family. The people outside of the family will sense that the vulnerable
guy seems to treat everyone equally and that he does not seem to have the types
of strong opinions that people usually have when they have a genuine role in a
spiritual entity such as a family. The people outside of the family might
come to realize that the vulnerable guy has not even been given a limited role
in his family. It might start to become obvious to family friends (such as
Number 5 and Number 6 below) that the family has given them a role in the family
that is equal to or greater than the role that that family has given to the
vulnerable guy, even though they are not actually in the family.
But the family might have trouble convincing other people that they actually gave the vulnerable guy an equal role in the family. The people outside of the family will sense that the vulnerable guy seems to treat everyone equally and that he does not seem to have the types of strong opinions that people usually have when they have a genuine role in a spiritual entity such as a family. The people outside of the family might come to realize that the vulnerable guy has not even been given a limited role in his family. It might start to become obvious to family friends (such as Number 5 and Number 6 below) that the family has given them a role in the family that is equal to or greater than the role that that family has given to the vulnerable guy, even though they are not actually in the family.
When the vulnerable guy's family realizes what is happening they might decide that they need to take action to avoid being criticized by people outside of the family. One technique they might use to make it appear that the vulnerable guy has a larger role in the family would be to criticize him when they are talking to people outside of the family. The people who they talk to will think that the other family members would not be criticizing the vulnerable guy if they were indifferent to him. It will now be assumed that the vulnerable guy did at one time have an equal role in his family. The people observing the situation will think that the vulnerable guy did something wrong that made him fall from grace. It will be assumed that the vulnerable guy has the same cultural values as his family because he has been given the spiritual identity as being someone basically similar to the other family members who just seems to have some bad traits.
The vulnerable guy is living in a false paradise that was based on the false premise that he was given an equal role in his family and that he has the same cultural values as his family. The vulnerable guy's family set up this false paradise to show other people that they were not indifferent to the vulnerable guy. The false premise that the vulnerable guy was given an equal role in the family, but just had a bad streak, will appear to be true because it will be very hard for him to avoid being misunderstood by other people.
As the vulnerable guy gets older and starts developing relationships outside of his family and his family's community, he will probably not understand some of the spiritual things that occur when he gets involved with other people. There is a danger that some of the people who he meets might try to take advantage of his weaknesses.
Most of the people who the vulnerable guy meets develop a deep set of emotions (which is the most important part of their soul). They also develop a practical set of emotions. An example of a person using their practical emotions might be a car salesperson merging the practical part of their soul with the soul of their customer for the purpose of getting the customer to sign the contract. The salesperson forms a temporary spiritual bond with their customer so that they will be able to influence the customer's thinking at that important point where the customer might be tempted to back out of the negotiation.
The vulnerable guy has exchanges of spiritual energy with other people that are similar to those of the salesperson. The salesperson has exchanges of spiritual energy with their customer, but it is only a temporary sort of a spiritual exchange that will not lead to a relationship. And the vulnerable guy also has exchanges of spiritual energy with other people that tend to not become very strong.
Everyone begins the process of exchanging their subconscious spiritual thoughts and feelings with other people shortly after they are born. Some of the spiritual information (or spiritual energy) that they receive from other people early in life might contain cultural or religious myths that have no basis in fact but they will allow those myths to go deep into their souls. They will allow those myths to go deep into their souls because the myths will come into them in a magical way (through the automatic exchange of subconscious spiritual energy with other people through the Collective Subconscious). For this reason, if a vulnerable guy meets a woman who is only merging the practical part of her soul with him, there will be quite a bit going on.
The woman who the vulnerable guy meets
is also exchanging her spiritual energy through the Collective Subconscious with
other people who she knows. A lot of spiritually and psychologically
vulnerable guys might have gotten into a pattern where they are interfacing with
a woman (who we will call a "primary woman") who is only merging the
practical part of her soul with the vulnerable guy. The primary woman is
relaying the spiritual energy that she picks up from the vulnerable guy to other
women who she knows (who we will call "secondary women") through the
Collective Subconscious. And the primary woman might also be relaying the
spiritual energy of the secondary women who she knows to the vulnerable guy
through the Collective Subconscious.
The vulnerable guy (Number 4 below)
might be picking up some strong emotional feelings because he can sense that
there is a magical exchange of spiritual energy taking place between him and the
secondary women. The secondary women are receiving the vulnerable guy's
spiritual energy through the Collective Subconscious and the vulnerable guy is
receiving their spiritual energy.
The secondary women might get upset with
the vulnerable guy for sending them his subconscious thoughts and feelings
through the Collective Subconscious and then not developing a deeper
relationship with them. They will
think that the vulnerable guy is leading them on and they will want him to stop
sending his subconscious thoughts and feelings to them through the Collective
Subconscious. The problem that the
vulnerable guy faces is that even though he is exchanging his spiritual energy
with these secondary women, he is not able to develop a relationship with any of
the secondary women directly. The
vulnerable guy’s relationships with the secondary women are based on the fact
that the primary woman is serving as a relay point between him and the secondary
The vulnerable guy might have also
gotten into a pattern of interfacing with other men who don’t want to get
close to him personally but who will relay the vulnerable guy’s subconscious
thoughts and feelings to other men who they know.
These men who are receiving the vulnerable guy’s subconscious thoughts
and feelings through the Collective Subconscious will wonder why they are
sensing that the vulnerable guy is trying to start a friendship with them and is
then backing off and not developing the relationship.
They do not understand that the vulnerable guy’s relationship with them
is dependent upon another man transmitting his subconscious thoughts and
feelings to them. The men who are
receiving the vulnerable guy’s subconscious thoughts and feelings will
eventually want to stop receiving these transmissions.
When the woman and the man who transmit
the vulnerable guy’s subconscious thoughts and feelings (his emotions) to
other people realize what is happening, they might take on the role of a bully
and they might create a lie that says that the vulnerable guy purposely likes to
hurt other people emotionally. They might expand upon their lie and say that the
vulnerable guy is not only guilty of leading other people on emotionally, but
that he is also guilty of continuing to send his emotions to other people
through the Collective Subconscious when he knows that they do not want to
receive those emotions.
The woman or the man might purposely
start an interaction with the vulnerable guy for the purpose of getting him in
trouble. They know that by starting
an interaction with him without really accepting him they will be relaying his
emotions to other people through the Collective Subconscious.
The woman and the man also know that when the other people receive the
vulnerable guy’s emotions through the Collective Subconscious they are going
to reject those emotions, and they are going to send a lot of bad vibrations
back to the vulnerable guy through the Collective Subconscious.
It would never occur to the vulnerable
guy that he might be blamed for leading other people on emotionally.
But the man bully and the woman bully created a lie saying that he was
purposely sending unwanted emotions to other people through the Collective
Subconscious and then these bullies purposely relayed his emotions to those
The vulnerable guy needs to somehow
communicate to other people that he did not intend to force his emotions on
other people and that it was the bullies who purposely relayed his emotions to
other people through the Collective Subconscious.
As he tries to convince other people of his innocence the bullies will
try to convince other people that the vulnerable guy is guilty.
One of the arguments that the bullies might use to convince other
people that the vulnerable guy is guilty is that he sometimes seems to think
that he is in a relationship with another person when he is not.
The vulnerable guy knows that he sometimes gives other people this
impression, but he does not know why this happens and he does not
really believe that he is developing a relationship when this happens.
What is happening in these situations is that when a man bully or a
woman bully take advantage of the vulnerable guy by doing something to him that
is unfair, some of the bully’s emotions will be forced onto the vulnerable
guy. After the vulnerable guy picks
up these emotions he will, without his knowledge, pass those emotions
that he picked up from the bully off to other people.
The other people who he passes the bully’s emotions off to will start
to develop an emotional relationship with the bully because the bully’s
emotions will be relayed to them by the vulnerable guy through the Collective
During the time immediately before a man bully or a woman bully
takes advantage of the vulnerable guy, it is very likely that the bully will
start to act kind of odd. They will
start saying stupid things that make the people around them start to avoid the
bully and start to criticize them. The
bully has at this point used up the spiritual energy that they had stolen from
other people in the past and the bully is becoming weaker.
The man bully or the woman bully needs to make a conquest.
They need to connect their soul to the soul of another person,
and they use the vulnerable guy to accomplish this.
When the vulnerable guy starts an interaction with another person after
having been bullied, the soul of the man bully or the woman bully will attach
itself to that other person. That is
why it might appear that the vulnerable guy is in a relationship when he is not
in a relationship. But the
relationship is not between the vulnerable guy and the other person.
It is between the bully and the other person.
The man bully or the woman bully will now start to feel emotionally
satisfied and the people who had been laughing at them for their insecurity will
now start to respect the bully once again. The
vulnerable guy will notice that the new person who he started an interaction
with might act friendly towards him for a short period of time thinking that he
has started a relationship with them, but after a while they will turn cold
towards him when they realize that he has done something that activated their
emotions and then did not follow through and develop the relationship further.
Deep in the vulnerable guy’s mind he might believe that someday
the man bully or the woman bully might want to become friends with him.
He knows that his interactions with the bully have been positive for the
bully. He has seen how the bully
gets transformed from being a somewhat shallow person into a person with a
certain amount of confidence after the bully has had an interaction with him and
for this reason he might imagine that the bully might like him.
But that is not really true.
The bully will eventually “use up” the spiritual energy that
they received from the person who the vulnerable guy had relayed the bully’s
emotions to. And in “using up”
that spiritual energy the bully will also “use up” the energy that the
vulnerable guy had put into the bully’s relationship with that person.
For this reason, in most situations there is no potential for additional
spiritual energy exchanges between the bully and the vulnerable guy once the
bully has used up the spiritual energy.
But if the bully and the vulnerable guy are in a work situation or a school situation where they are forced to continue interacting with each other, the bully might end up bullying the vulnerable guy several times over a period of months or years. In this type of a situation the energy exchanges between them might eventually become fairly strong, but it will be a negative type of energy that is being exchanged that cannot develop into a positive relationship.
The bully in the previous example did damage to the vulnerable guy, but it was a different type of damage than the damage that was done earlier in his life by the people who tried to convince other people that they were not indifferent to the vulnerable guy. But eventually the vulnerable guy will realize that the bully is also indifferent towards him.
Not only will the vulnerable guy see that the bully is indifferent towards him, but other people will also see that the bully is indifferent towards the vulnerable guy. At this point the bully might start to become afraid that other people will realize that the bully has only been using the vulnerable guy to relay his emotions to other people. The bully might start to criticize the vulnerable guy so that people don't think that he is indifferent towards him. Now the vulnerable guy will be in a similar situation to what he experienced earlier in his life where somebody will be criticizing him so that other people don't think they are indifferent to him.
When the bully starts criticizing the vulnerable guy the people who the bully is talking to will think that the bully would not be criticizing the vulnerable guy if the bully was indifferent towards him. They will start to think that the vulnerable guy must have cultural values similar to those of the bully. They will think that he has fallen from grace with the bully but that he still has cultural values similar to those of the bully.
The vulnerable guy's original false paradise was set up early in his life. The second false paradise was set up by the bully to convince other people that the bully was not really indifferent to the vulnerable guy.
There is another type of bullying that can happen when a bully and a
vulnerable guy are in a work situation or a school situation.
If the bully is in a position of power and if somebody in the group has a
behavior problem, the bully might be reluctant to punish that person if the
person who has a behavior problem is somebody who the bully likes.
The bully might decide to punish the vulnerable guy instead.
When this sort of thing happens the people in the group know that
the person with the behavior problem has done something wrong and they are
waiting to see what the punishment will be. They know that this person must
“pay for their sins”. If the
bully at this point starts to lean unfairly on the vulnerable guy, the people in
the group will realize that the bully is trying to transfer the punishment that
was supposed to go to the person with the behavior problem to the vulnerable
guy. If the vulnerable guy does not
have the spiritual strength to stop this from happening the group might join
together spiritually to transfer the blame from the person who has the behavior
problem to the vulnerable guy. Not
only is this psychologically damaging to the vulnerable guy, but once this
happens the person with the behavior problem might start to purposely do things
that are wrong and then enjoy watching while the vulnerable guy is forced to
accept the shame and the blame.
is something else happening when a bully uses a group situation to transfer
shame and blame away from a person who they are trying to protect and transfer
it to the vulnerable guy. The bully might notice that the people in the
group enjoyed what was happening when they helped the bully to perform the
spiritual transfer of shame and blame from the guilty person to the vulnerable
guy. The bully will realize that not only did
the group members participate in a transfer of spiritual shame and blame, but
also that the group members now feel that they are winners.
They have the excitement that comes from being in a competition with
another person and coming out of it as the obvious winner.
Each of the group members feels that they competed with the vulnerable
guy and that they were victorious over him.
The vulnerable guy knows that when men
find another man to be exciting they often will want to become friends with the
exciting man. And he knows that when
women find a man to be exciting they will often try to develop a romantic
relationship with him. It is hard
for the vulnerable guy to understand that the type of excitement that people
feel when they are with him is not really a positive thing.
They are only excited because they feel that they have power over him.
When a woman meets the vulnerable guy she
will sense that he thinks she is excited about him.
At first she might think that it is ok because she is excited about the
power that she has over him. But
when she senses that he views her excitement as a possible basis for a serious
relationship between him and her, she will start to act cold towards him.
The bullies who the vulnerable guy has known throughout his life have set
the stage for this sort of thing to happen.
Earlier it was mentioned that the
vulnerable guy does not really think that he is forcing his emotions on other
people. But when he meets another
person and this type of misunderstanding occurs, he will appear to be guilty of
forcing his emotions onto them. To
prevent this from happening the vulnerable guy needs to understand why he senses
that women and men are excited about him. Then
he will be less likely to make this type of mistake.
Whenever a bully does something that
causes the vulnerable guy to lose face in front of a group of people, the
vulnerable guy gets nervous because he knows that the bullying will make it
harder for him to form good relationships with other people in the future.
Instead of panicking at these times, he should try to understand that
what the bully is doing is making the other group members feel excitement at his
expense. Once he understands what is
happening he will be more relaxed when he meets a man or a woman and he senses
at a deep subconscious level that they are excited about him.
The other person will no longer sense that he incorrectly believes that
their excitement about him is a basis for developing a relationship.
This should help him to develop smoother relationships in the future.
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