In the period following World War II there were many books and articles published that showed how people are capable of putting complexes on other people (damaging other people psychologically) by saying unfair things about them of doing unfair things to them and then denying that they have done anything wrong.  There were a lot of people at that time who believed that by the year 2000 people would no longer want to gain feelings of personal power by taking advantage of other people psychologically.  But what actually happened was that instead of using the new information about psychological weaknesses to help other people become stronger, many people, who we will refer to as bullies, began to study that information and they began to use that information to purposely take advantage of people who were spiritually and psychologically vulnerable.

Before discussing the specific techniques that bullies use to take advantage of people who are vulnerable, it might be useful to discuss the difference between the types of spiritual worlds that most people (including bullies) live in and the types of spiritual worlds that vulnerable people live in.

Most of us feel that we have a pretty good idea as to what is right and what is wrong, and we are usually not afraid to express our opinions about what we consider to be right and what we consider to be wrong.  How can we be so sure that we are right about an issue when the guy who lives down the block from us is so sure that we are wrong about the same issue?  The guy who lives down the block began a socialization process of automatically exchanging his subconscious spiritual thoughts and feelings with other people through the Collective Subconscious early in life.  We also began the same socialization process early in life.  How can our opinions be so different?  Even though we were each developing spiritual links with other people as we were growing up, we were not developing our spiritual links with the same people.  



The people who we developed our spiritual links with became an important part of our thought processes.  They became like a conscience telling us what was right and what was wrong.  Whenever we would express our opinions about an issue, we would feel that we were being “watched” and that we were being supported by these people who we were spiritually linked to.  And the guy who lived down the block also felt that he was being “watched” and that he was being supported by the people who he was spiritually linked to.  We did not feel that we were living in a fantasy world and the guy down the block did not feel that he was living in a fantasy world.  Our spiritual connections with the people who we were spiritually linked to were very real and very dynamic and those spiritual connections were a very important part of our reality.  And the spiritual connections of the guy down the block were very real and very dynamic to him.  Those spiritual connections were a very important part of his reality.  We lived on the same block as the other guy but we lived in different worlds.

There are a lot of vulnerable people in our physical world who do not consider their spiritual connections with other people to be an important part of their reality.  When a vulnerable guy (or a vulnerable girl) hears other people talking about parallel worlds and parallel realities they have no idea what those people are talking about.  And when those people go on to tell the vulnerable guy that he is living in a fantasy world he will probably think to himself that his fantasies are nowhere near as ridiculous as fantasies about parallel worlds.  The vulnerable guy (Number 4 below) might have initially gotten into the difficult position of living in a fantasy spiritual world instead of a real spiritual world because he was only given a limited role in this family. 

If the family gives the vulnerable guy only a limited role in the spiritual entity that is made up of the family members (and takes away some of his spiritual energy), they might create a fantasy about the vulnerable guy that says that he was given an equal role in the family and that he is capable of normal exchanges of spiritual energy with other people.  When the vulnerable guy starts to develop relationships with people out of the family, the people who he meets will be confused.  Due to the fact that they believe the family's fantasy that the vulnerable guy is living in a real spiritual world (and not a fantasy spiritual world), they will wonder why they are only able to develop a very practical and a very limited type of a relationship with him.  

Most of the people who the vulnerable guy meets develop a deep set of the emotions (which is the most important part of their soul).  They also develop a practical set of these emotions.  An example of a person using their practical emotions might be a car saleswoman merging the practical part of her soul with the souls of her customers for the purpose of getting them to buy an automobile from her.  When a customer comes into the car dealership she tries to build rapport with that customer by developing a practical sort of spiritual attachment with them.  After creating this spiritual attachment she will be exchanging subconscious spiritual thoughts and feelings with a customer.  She might allow the customers to take a test drive with the car.  One customer who takes a test drive will take the car out into the country to see how fast it will go.  Another customer will use the car to pick up their kids after school.  When the customers come back and the salesperson realizes the test drive has helped them to overcome their doubts about the car, she will be happy that they want to buy the car but she will not know where they took the car on the test drive.  But even though she does not know consciously where the customer took the car on the test drive she might know at a deep subconscious level were the customer took the car and she might know what the customer was thinking during the test drive because of the practical spiritual attachment that she formed with a customer when the customer walked into the car dealership.  The saleswoman is living in one real spiritual world (or spiritual reality) and her customer is living in another real spiritual world.  When people relate to other people who are from different real spiritual worlds they use practical spiritual connections.  The relationship cannot really developed into anything further because the basis of the relationship is false.  It is not based on strong emotions.  The vulnerable guy has exchanges of spiritual energy with other people that are similar to those of the saleswoman.  The saleswoman has exchanges of spiritual information with her customers at a deep level, but it is a temporary sort of a spiritual exchange that will not lead to a relationship.  And the vulnerable guy also has exchanges of spiritual energy with other people that tend to not become very strong.

Everyone begins the process of exchanging their subconscious spiritual thoughts and feelings with other people shortly after they are born.  Some of the spiritual information (or spiritual energy) that they receive from other people early in life might contain cultural or religious myths that have no basis in fact but they will allow those myths to go deep into their souls.  They will allow those myths to go deep into their souls because the myths will come into them in a magical way (through the automatic exchange of subconscious spiritual energy with other people through the Collective Subconscious).  For this reason, if a vulnerable guy meets a woman who is only merging the practical part of her soul with him, there will be quite a bit going on.

The woman who the vulnerable guy meets is also exchanging her spiritual energy through the Collective Subconscious with other people who she knows.  A lot of spiritually and psychologically vulnerable guys might have gotten into a pattern where they are interfacing with a woman (who we will call a "primary woman") who is only merging the practical part of her soul with the vulnerable guy.  The primary woman is relaying the spiritual energy that she picks up from the vulnerable guy to other women who she knows (who we will call "secondary women") through the Collective Subconscious.  And the primary woman might also be relaying the spiritual energy of the secondary women who she knows to the vulnerable guy through the Collective Subconscious.  

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The vulnerable guy (Number 4 below) might be picking up some strong emotional feelings because he can sense that there is a magical exchange of spiritual energy taking place between himself and the secondary women.  The secondary women are receiving the vulnerable guy's spiritual energy through the Collective Subconscious and the vulnerable guy is receiving their spiritual energy.

The secondary women might get upset with the vulnerable guy for sending them his subconscious thoughts and feelings through the Collective Subconscious and then not developing a deeper relationship with them.  They might think that the vulnerable guy is leading them on because he is starting a relationship with them and is then backing off instead of trying to develop the relationship further.  The problem that the vulnerable guy faces is that even though he is exchanging his spiritual energy with these secondary women, he is not able to develop a relationship with any of the secondary women directly.  The vulnerable guy's relationships with the secondary women are based on the fact that the primary woman is serving as a relay point between him and the secondary women.

There is an old saying that you reap what you sow.  But there are a lot of people who don't like the idea that you have to work at planting seeds if you want to have a harvest.  A lot of people prefer to reap where they do not sow.  Most people will believe the fantasy about the vulnerable guy that was created by his family, but there are some people who can see through the deception.  The individuals who like to reap where they don't sow know that the vulnerable guy does not want to get into another situation where he gets to know a group of people and the end result is that the primary woman is mad because she thinks that he has been leading her friends on emotionally and the secondary women are mad at the vulnerable guy because they feel that he has been leading them on.  The people who like to reap where they don't sow know that the vulnerable guy's emotions are not strong, but they also know that he gets very nervous when he feels that he is getting involved in a situation where a new primary woman is going to relay his emotions to secondary women who she knows and where the end result is going to be that everybody will be upset with him.  The people who like to reap where they don't sow might start a rumor saying that the vulnerable guy wants to get involved with the primary woman.  The people who start this type of rumor know that it will make the primary woman angry and that it will make the secondary women angry.  The vulnerable guy will get nervous when he senses that these people are becoming angry and when everyone notices that he is getting nervous they will come to the false conclusion that the rumor is true.

After a person who likes to reap where they don't sow (a rough person) embarrasses the vulnerable guy in a group situation he might try to make friends with that person hoping that by being nice to them he might be able to prevent them from embarrassing him in the future.  But he needs to know that this person knows that the vulnerable guy's family created a fantasy about him that said that he was capable of normal exchanges of spiritual energy with other people.  When the vulnerable guy gets to know this rough person they will try to make him incorrectly believe that the fantasy that was created by the vulnerable guy's family was true and that he really is capable of normal exchanges of spiritual energy with other people.  The rough person will try to lead him into thinking that they will not hurt him anymore because they are now spiritually connected to the vulnerable guy.  But eventually the rough person will once again embarrass the vulnerable guy in another group situation.  The people in the group who have been observing the situation will ask the rough person why they stopped the relationship that appeared to be developing between the rough person and the vulnerable guy.  The rough person will at this point create a lie about the vulnerable guy that says that the vulnerable guy was too rough for them.  They get away with this because when the rough person was nice to the vulnerable guy, it made people think that the vulnerable guy must be rough because the rough person would not want to make friends with somebody who was not similar to them.

Earlier it was mentioned that the vulnerable guy's family might have given him a limited role in his family.  When they did this they might have tried to give other people (including the people in the family's immediate community) the impression that the vulnerable guy was actually given an equal role in the family.  At first the family might have trouble convincing other people that their fantasy is true.  The vulnerable guy will obviously have a lack of spiritual energy and he will have trouble relating to other people.  But early in his life the vulnerable guy might meet somebody in his family's immediate community who is similar to the rough person in our example.  They might act like they are becoming friends with the vulnerable guy when they are actually just setting him up.

 

The people in the family's immediate community (including the vulnerable guy's family members) will think that this rough person would not like the vulnerable guy unless they thought that he was rough. When the rough person ends the relationship with him and people ask the reason why it, they will create a lie that says that he was too rough for them. The people in the group will start to think that the vulnerable guy is rough.  

Because of his experience with the rough person the vulnerable guy might develop a spiritual identity as being a person who is rough. At this point it will become easier for the vulnerable guy's family to give other people the impression that the vulnerable guy was given an equal role in his family.  Now that he has been given a spiritual identity, it will appear to other people that he is living in a real spiritual world.

The rough person who took advantage of the vulnerable guy early in his life was not trying to give him a solid platform for developing relationships with other people.  And whenever other people kept the vulnerable guy's fantasy spiritual world alive for their own benefit (by perpetuating the lie that was created by the rough person), they were not trying to give him a solid platform for developing good relationships.  The rough person gave the vulnerable guy a spiritual identity, which was something that he did not have before.  After that his family and other people who he met in his life (at school and at work) were able to have practical exchanges of spiritual energy with him based on the spiritual identity that he was given.  As he went through his life he brought more and more people into his fantasy spiritual world.

 

But it might be useful for the vulnerable guy to realize that instead of living in one fantasy world, he might actually be living in two fantasy worlds.  For example, the vulnerable guy's family might have been embarrassed when the rough person gave the vulnerable guy a spiritual identity as being someone who was rough.  They might have prided themselves on being fancy people who were better than other people.  When they saw that the rough person was able to get away with telling other people that the vulnerable guy was rough (when he actually wasn't rough), the vulnerable guy's family decided that they would tell other people that the vulnerable guy, like the other members of his family, was a person who was fancier than other people (when he actually wasn't fancy at all).  The vulnerable guy now had two false spiritual identities.

The vulnerable guy should be trying to develop a better understanding of the two fantasy spiritual worlds that he is a part of (the Fancy Fantasy Spiritual World and the Rough Fantasy Spiritual World).  The vulnerable guy is exchanging spiritual energy with people in both of these fantasy spiritual worlds.

 



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The people from the Fancy Fantasy Spiritual World know that the vulnerable guy is a part of their spiritual world and that he is also a part of the spiritual world of the rough people.  The fancy people can make the vulnerable guy nervous by making a comment about how rough the vulnerable guy is.  These fancy people know that the vulnerable guy did not finish the job when he detached himself from his Fancy Fantasy Spiritual World.  And they know that the vulnerable guy gets nervous when they joke about him being rough.  The vulnerable guy gets nervous because he knows that he is not rough but he does not know how to prove that he is not rough.  

When he was younger the vulnerable guy never thought that he needed to detach himself from rough people because he did not believe that he was rough.  But a fantasy spiritual world had been created for him by the rough people.  Because of this fact he has to figure out how to detach himself from that spiritual world.  He needs to do this to develop a stronger spiritual structure and to develop a stronger sense of self awareness.  The vulnerable guy is not really a rough person and living in a fantasy spiritual world that was based on the premise that he is rough is a major conflict for him.  But once he realizes that the people who gave him the rough spiritual identity told a lie to create his rough fantasy spiritual world, he might be able to gain enough insight to break free from this Rough Fantasy Spiritual World that was created by the rough people.

The vulnerable guy is also a member of another fantasy spiritual world (a Guilty Fantasy Spiritual World).  This fantasy spiritual world was based on a false premise in the same way that the vulnerable guy's other two fantasy spiritual worlds were based on a false premise.

As mentioned earlier, the vulnerable guy might have gotten into a pattern where he is interfacing with a woman who he is not involved with but who is relaying the vulnerable guy's subconscious thoughts and feelings to other women who she knows through the Collective Subconscious.  The women who are receiving the vulnerable guy's subconscious thoughts and feelings through the Collective Subconscious might become upset with him because it seems to them that he is purposely starting a relationship with them with no intention of following through.  They don't understand that his relationship with them is dependent upon another woman transmitting his thoughts and feelings to them.  The women who are receiving the vulnerable guy's subconscious thoughts and feelings will eventually want to stop receiving those transmissions.

The vulnerable guy might have also gotten into a pattern of interfacing with other men who don't want to get close to him personally but who will relay the vulnerable guy's subconscious thoughts and feelings to other men who they know.  These men who receive the vulnerable guy's subconscious thoughts and feelings through the Collective Subconscious will wonder why they are sensing that the vulnerable guy is purposely trying to start a friendship with them and is then backing off and not developing the relationship.  They do not understand that his relationship with them is dependent upon another man transmitting his thoughts and feelings to them.  The men who are receiving the vulnerable guy's subconscious thoughts and feelings will eventually want to stop receiving those transmissions. 

When the woman and the man who transmit the vulnerable guy's thoughts and feelings to other people realize what is happening they might create a fantasy spiritual world for the vulnerable guy based on the false premise that the vulnerable guy purposely tries to lead other people on emotionally.  The woman and the man might expand upon their lie and say that the vulnerable guy is not only guilty of leading other people on emotionally, but that he is also guilty of continuing to send his emotions to other people when he knows that they do not want to receive those emotions.  

It would never occur to the vulnerable guy that he would need to detach himself from feelings of guilt for leading other people on emotionally.  But a false fantasy spiritual world has been created for him by the woman and the man who are relaying his emotions to other people.  When the rough people and the fancy people told the lies that created the vulnerable guy's Rough Fantasy Spiritual World and Fancy Fantasy Spiritual World, they were not trying to give him a solid platform for developing good relationships with other people.  And when the woman and the man who transmitted the vulnerable guy's subconscious thoughts and feelings to other people told the lies that created a fantasy spiritual world based on the premise that the vulnerable guy liked to force his emotions on other people, they also were not trying to give him a solid basis for developing good relationships.

The vulnerable guy is not really guilty of purposely imposing his subconscious thoughts and feelings on other people through the Collective Subconscious.  For this reason, living in a fantasy spiritual world that was based on that premise is a major conflict for him.  But once he realizes that the people who gave him this guilty spiritual identity told a lie to create his Guilty Fantasy Spiritual World, he might be able to gain enough insight to break free from this fantasy spiritual world.

But there is a danger that while the vulnerable guy is trying to detach from and gain control over his Guilty Fantasy Spiritual World, he might lose sight of the fact that he also has a Fancy Fantasy Spiritual World and a Rough Fantasy Spiritual World that he needs to detach from and gain control of.  These three fantasy spiritual worlds were not created to help the vulnerable guy become stronger, and he needs to gain insight into these fantasy spiritual worlds in order to keep them under control.  

Each of the vulnerable guy's three fantasy spiritual worlds have a conscious area where things are fairly obvious.  And each of his three fantasy spiritual worlds have other levels below the surface where things go on that are outside of the vulnerable guy's conscious awareness.


It is a difficult task for anybody to balance the conscious area of their soul with the deeper areas of their soul.  But for most people what goes on at the deeper levels, while not being obvious to the individual, will at least be consistent with what their beliefs are at a conscious level.

There might be times when people from the vulnerable guy's Fancy Fantasy Spiritual World might pressure him into focusing all of his attention on them.  At other times people from his Rough Fantasy Spiritual World or his Guilty Fantasy Spiritual World might pressure him into focusing all of his attention on them.  

For example, the woman or the man who told the lie that created the vulnerable guy's Guilty Fantasy Spiritual World might take on the role of a bully.  They might force him to concentrate on them by starting an interaction with him for the purpose of getting him in trouble.  They know that by starting an interaction with him they will be relaying his emotions to other people.  The woman and the man also know that when the other people receive the vulnerable guy's emotions through the Collective Subconscious they are going to reject those emotions, and they are going to send a lot of bad vibrations back to the vulnerable guy through the Collective Subconscious.  It makes the vulnerable guy nervous when this happens and as he panics trying to figure out what to do, he is likely to lose sight of the fact that he is living in three fantasy spiritual worlds that he needs to learn to detach from and that he needs to take control of.  At this point the vulnerable guy might develop a Combined Fantasy Spiritual World where his three fantasy spiritual worlds get merged together.  This is the point where the parts of his soul that are below the surface might become a problem for him when he is dealing with other people.

 

When the vulnerable guy is aware of his three fantasy spiritual worlds he knows at a conscious level and at a deeper level that he did not purposely set up the three fantasy spiritual worlds that he is living in.  But when he is forced into the Combined Fantasy Spiritual World he starts to get confused.  When he is aware of his three fantasy spiritual worlds and he meets a new person, the vulnerable guy will communicate to that person at a deep subconscious level that he lives in three fantasy spiritual worlds that were created by lies told by other people and that he is trying to gain control of those three fantasy spiritual worlds.  But when the vulnerable guy meets a new person after having been forced into the Combined Fantasy Spiritual World, he will have trouble communicating to that person at a deep subconscious level the reason why he is living in fantasy spiritual worlds.  The other person will very likely not feel comfortable with him because of this fact.  The other person will feel uncomfortable with him because they can sense at a deep subconscious level that the vulnerable guy is living in fantasy spiritual worlds and that he does not seem to have a plan to gain control over his fantasy spiritual worlds.  For this reason, they might think of him as being a reckless person.

One of the arguments that the bullies might use to convince other people that the vulnerable guy is guilty is that he sometimes seems to think that he is in a relationship with another person when he is not.  The vulnerable guy knows that he sometimes gives other people this impression, but he does not know why this happens and he feels that he does not really believe that he is developing a relationship when this happens. 

What is happening in these situations is that when a man bully or a woman bully take advantage of the vulnerable guy by doing something to him that is unfair, some of the bully’s emotions will be forced onto the vulnerable guy.  After the vulnerable guy picks up these emotions he will, without his conscious awareness, pass those emotions that he picked up from the bully off to other people.  The other people who he passes the bully’s emotions off to will start to develop an emotional relationship with the bully due to the bully’s emotions being relayed to them by the vulnerable guy through the Collective Subconscious.

The vulnerable guy knows that what is happening is a long way from being a relationship because he knows that he is not receiving strong emotions from the other person.  But he does not understand why he cannot just relax with this person who he does not believe he has formed a relationship with.  He cannot relax with the other person because the bully has gotten him to force the bully’s emotions onto the other person and the bully will not allow the vulnerable guy to back off and relax.

During the time immediately before a man bully or a woman bully takes advantage of the vulnerable guy, it is very likely that the bully will start to act kind of odd.  They will start saying stupid things that make the people around them start to avoid the bully and start to criticize the bully.  The bully has at this point used up the spiritual energy that they had stolen from other people in the past and the bully is becoming weaker.

The man bully or the woman bully need to make a conquest.  They need to connect their shallow soul to the soul of another person, and they use the vulnerable guy to accomplish this.  When the vulnerable guy starts an interaction with another person after having been bulled, the soul of the man bully or the woman bully will attach itself to that other person.  That is why it might appear that the vulnerable guy is in a relationship when he is not in a relationship.  The relationship is not between the vulnerable guy and the other person.  The relationship is between the bully and the other person.

The man bully or the woman bully will now start to feel emotionally satisfied and the people who had been laughing at them for their insecurity will now start to respect the bully once again.  The vulnerable guy will notice that the new person who he started an interaction with might act friendly towards him for a short period of time thinking that he has started a relationship with them, but after a while they will turn cold towards him when they realize that he has done something that activated their emotions and then did not follow through and develop the relationship further.

Deep in the vulnerable guy’s mind he might believe that someday the man bully or the woman bully might want to become friends with him.  He knows that his interactions with the bully have been positive for the bully.  He has seen how the bully gets transformed from being a somewhat shallow person into a person with a certain amount of confidence after the bully has had an interaction with him and for this reason he might imagine that the bully might like him.  But that is not necessarily true.

The bully will eventually “use up” the spiritual energy that they received from the person who the vulnerable guy had relayed the bully’s emotions to.  And in “using up” that spiritual energy the bully will also “use up” the energy that the vulnerable guy had put into the bully’s relationship with that person.  For this reason, in most situations there is no potential for additional spiritual energy exchanges between the bully and the vulnerable guy once the bully has used up the spiritual energy.

But if the bully and the vulnerable guy are in a work situation or a school situation where they are forced to continue interacting with each other, the bully may end up bullying the vulnerable guy several times over a period of months or years.  In this type of a situation the energy exchanges between them might eventually become fairly strong, but it will be a negative type of energy that is being exchanged that cannot develop into a positive relationship.

Over a number of years the vulnerable guy might have developed several of these types of “involvements” with man bullies and woman bullies.  When he meets a bully that spiritual energy from the bullies who the vulnerable guy knew in the past gets transferred to the new bully.  The vulnerable guy might have mixed emotions about his involvements with bullies due to the fact that a lot of his emotional structure has developed from his encounters with different bullies who he has known through the years.  But it might be useful for him to remember that he is living in three fantasy spiritual worlds that he is trying to bring together and to take control of so that he can be stronger.  It is very unlikely that his involvements with bullies are going to make him stronger because the bullies will keep trying to force the vulnerable guy to put all of his spiritual energy into his Guilty Fantasy Spiritual World when he needs to be concentrating on all three of his fantasy spiritual worlds.

 

The vulnerable guy is exchanging spiritual energy with other people but due to the fact that his exchanges of spiritual energy are taking place in only one of his three fantasy spiritual worlds they cannot be genuine because he is only putting part of his soul into the spiritual energy exchanges.  But there is something positive going on.  These exchanges of spiritual energy demonstrate that the vulnerable guy is capable of exchanging spiritual energy with other people.

If the vulnerable guy could break free from the bullies in his Guilty Fantasy Spiritual World he might be able to at that point bring together his three fantasy spiritual worlds into one strong spiritual world (or one strong soul).

 

 

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