If you were to sit down and read all of the articles that have been published about bullies over the past few years you would discover that there are a lot of people who believe that bullies perform a positive role in our society and that there are a lot of other people who believe that bullies perform a negative and destructive role in our society.
Some people argue that the world is tough and that the bullies are actually kind people who only bully others to make them stronger. Once the bully sees that they have made the other person stronger, they will look for someone else who they can also help to make stronger. Other people argue that bullies will do as much psychological damage as they can to their vulnerable target and will then totally ignore that person. Once the bully sees that they have weakened their target, they will look for someone else who they can also make weaker.
Bullying is hard to understand because one bully might bully other people for one reason and another bully might bully other people for a different reason. Before discussing the reasons why the bully feels the need to bully other people, it might be useful to discuss the difference between the types of spiritual worlds that most people (including the bully) live in and the type of spiritual world that the bully’s vulnerable target lives in.
Most of us feel that we have a pretty good idea as to what is right and what is wrong, and we are usually not afraid to express our opinions about what we consider to be right and what we consider to be wrong. How can we be so sure that we are right about an issue when the guy who lives down the block from us is so sure that we are wrong about the same issue? The guy who lives down the block began a socialization process of automatically exchanging his subconscious spiritual thoughts and feelings with other people through the Collective Subconscious early in life. We also began the same socialization process early in life. How can our opinions be so different? Even though we were each developing spiritual links with other people as we were growing up, we were not developing our spiritual links with the same people.
The people who we developed our spiritual links with became an important part of our thought processes. They became like a conscience telling us what was right and what was wrong. Whenever we would express our opinions about an issue, we would feel that we were being “watched” and that we were being supported by these people who we were spiritually linked to. And the guy who lived down the block also felt that he was being “watched” and that he was being supported by the people who he was spiritually linked to. Our spiritual connections with the people who we were spiritually linked to were very real and very dynamic and those spiritual connections were a very important part of our reality. And the spiritual connections of the guy down the block were very real and very dynamic to him. Those spiritual connections were a very important part of his reality. We lived on the same block as the other guy but we lived in different spiritual worlds.
There are a lot of vulnerable people in
our physical world who do not consider their spiritual connections with other
people to be an important part of their reality. When a vulnerable guy (or
a vulnerable girl) hears other people talking about the spiritual worlds that
they live in, the vulnerable guy will not really understand what those people
are talking about.
The vulnerable guy (Number 4 below) might have originally gotten into the difficult position of not living in a real spiritual world because he was only given a limited role in this family.
If the family gives the vulnerable
guy only a limited role in the spiritual entity that is made up of the family
members (and takes away some of his spiritual energy), they might create a
fantasy about the vulnerable guy that says that he was given an equal role in
the family and that he is capable of normal exchanges of spiritual energy with
When the vulnerable guy starts to develop relationships with people outside of the family, the people who he meets will be confused. Due to the fact that they believe the family's fantasy that the vulnerable guy is living in a real spiritual world, they will wonder why they are only able to develop a very practical and a very limited type of a relationship with him.
Most of the people who the
vulnerable guy meets develop a deep set of the emotions (which is the most
important part of their soul). They also develop a practical set of
emotions. An example of a person using their practical emotions might be a
car saleswoman merging the practical part of her soul with the souls of her
customers for the purpose of getting them to buy an automobile from her.
When a customer comes into the car dealership she tries to build rapport with
that customer by developing a practical sort of spiritual attachment with them.
After creating this spiritual attachment she will be exchanging subconscious
spiritual thoughts and feelings with a customer. She might allow the
customers to take a test drive with the car. One customer who takes a test
drive will take the car out into the country to see how fast it will go.
Another customer will use the car to pick up their kids after school. When
the customers come back and the salesperson realizes the test drive has helped
them to overcome their doubts about the car, she will be happy that they want to
buy the car but she will not know where they took the car on the test drive.
But even though she does not know consciously where the customer took the
car on the test drive she might know at a deep subconscious level where the
customer took the car and she might know what the customer was thinking during
the test drive because of the practical spiritual attachment that she formed
with a customer when the customer walked into the car dealership.
The vulnerable guy has exchanges of spiritual energy with other people that are similar to those of the saleswoman. The saleswoman has exchanges of spiritual information with her customers at a deep level, but it is a temporary sort of a spiritual exchange that will not lead to a relationship. And the vulnerable guy also has exchanges of spiritual energy with other people that tend to not become very strong.
Everyone begins the process of exchanging their subconscious spiritual thoughts and feelings with other people shortly after they are born. Some of the spiritual information (or spiritual energy) that they receive from other people early in life might contain cultural or religious myths that have no basis in fact but they will allow those myths to go deep into their souls. They will allow those myths to go deep into their souls because the myths will come into them in a magical way (through the automatic exchange of subconscious spiritual energy with other people through the Collective Subconscious). For this reason, if a vulnerable guy meets a woman who is only merging the practical part of her soul with him, there will be quite a bit going on.
The woman who the vulnerable guy meets
is also exchanging her spiritual energy through the Collective Subconscious with
other people who she knows. A lot of spiritually and psychologically
vulnerable guys might have gotten into a pattern where they are interfacing with
a woman (who we will call a "primary woman") who is only merging the
practical part of her soul with the vulnerable guy. The primary woman is
relaying the spiritual energy that she picks up from the vulnerable guy to other
women who she knows (who we will call "secondary women") through the
Collective Subconscious. And the primary woman might also be relaying the
spiritual energy of the secondary women who she knows to the vulnerable guy
through the Collective Subconscious.
The vulnerable guy (Number 4 below)
might be picking up some strong emotional feelings because he can sense that
there is a magical exchange of spiritual energy taking place between him and the
secondary women. The secondary women are receiving the vulnerable guy's
spiritual energy through the Collective Subconscious and the vulnerable guy is
receiving their spiritual energy.
The secondary women might get upset with
the vulnerable guy for sending them his subconscious thoughts and feelings
through the Collective Subconscious and then not developing a deeper
relationship with them. They will
think that the vulnerable guy is leading them on and they will want him to stop
sending his subconscious thoughts and feelings to them through the Collective
Subconscious. The problem that the
vulnerable guy faces is that even though he is exchanging his spiritual energy
with these secondary women, he is not able to develop a relationship with any of
the secondary women directly. The
vulnerable guy’s relationships with the secondary women are based on the fact
that the primary woman is serving as a relay point between him and the secondary
The vulnerable guy might have also
gotten into a pattern of interfacing with other men who don’t want to get
close to him personally but who will relay the vulnerable guy’s subconscious
thoughts and feelings to other men who they know.
These men who are receiving the vulnerable guy’s subconscious thoughts
and feelings through the Collective Subconscious will wonder why they are
sensing that the vulnerable guy is trying to start a friendship with them and is
then backing off and not developing the relationship.
They do not understand that the vulnerable guy’s relationship with them
is dependent upon another man transmitting his subconscious thoughts and
feelings to them. The men who are
receiving the vulnerable guy’s subconscious thoughts and feelings will
eventually want to stop receiving these transmissions.
When the woman and the man who transmit
the vulnerable guy’s subconscious thoughts and feelings (his emotions) to
other people realize what is happening, they might take on the role of a bully
and they might create a lie that says that the vulnerable guy purposely likes to
hurt other people emotionally. They might expand upon their lie and say that the
vulnerable guy is not only guilty of leading other people on emotionally, but
that he is also guilty of continuing to send his emotions to other people
through the Collective Subconscious when he knows that they do not want to
receive those emotions.
The woman or the man might purposely
start an interaction with the vulnerable guy for the purpose of getting him in
trouble. They know that by starting
an interaction with him without really accepting him they will be relaying his
emotions to other people through the Collective Subconscious.
The woman and the man also know that when the other people receive the
vulnerable guy’s emotions through the Collective Subconscious they are going
to reject those emotions, and they are going to send a lot of bad vibrations
back to the vulnerable guy through the Collective Subconscious.
It would never occur to the vulnerable
guy that he might be blamed for leading other people on emotionally.
But the man bully and the woman bully created a lie saying that he was
purposely sending unwanted emotions to other people through the Collective
Subconscious and then these bullies purposely relayed his emotions to those
The vulnerable guy needs to somehow
communicate to other people that he did not intend to force his emotions on
other people and that it was the bullies who purposely relayed his emotions to
other people through the Collective Subconscious.
As he tries to convince other people of his innocence the bullies will
try to convince other people that the vulnerable guy is guilty.
One of the arguments that the bullies might use to convince other
people that the vulnerable guy is guilty is that he sometimes seems to think
that he is in a relationship with another person when he is not.
The vulnerable guy knows that he sometimes gives other people this
impression, but he does not know why this happens and he does not
really believe that he is developing a relationship when this happens.
What is happening in these situations is that when a man bully or a
woman bully take advantage of the vulnerable guy by doing something to him that
is unfair, some of the bully’s emotions will be forced onto the vulnerable
guy. After the vulnerable guy picks
up these emotions he will, without his conscious awareness, pass those emotions
that he picked up from the bully off to other people.
The other people who he passes the bully’s emotions off to will start
to develop an emotional relationship with the bully due to the bully’s
emotions being relayed to them by the vulnerable guy through the Collective
The vulnerable guy knows that what is happening is a long way from
being a relationship because he knows that he is not receiving strong emotions
from the other person. But he does
not understand why he cannot just relax with this person who he does not believe
he has formed a relationship with. He
cannot relax with the other person because the bully has gotten him to force the
bully’s emotions onto the other person and the bully will not allow the
vulnerable guy to back off and relax.
During the time immediately before a man bully or a woman bully
takes advantage of the vulnerable guy, it is very likely that the bully will
start to act kind of odd. They will
start saying stupid things that make the people around them start to avoid the
bully and start to criticize the bully. The
bully has at this point used up the spiritual energy that they had stolen from
other people in the past and the bully is becoming weaker.
The man bully or the woman bully needs to make a conquest.
They need to connect their shallow soul to the soul of another person,
and they use the vulnerable guy to accomplish this.
When the vulnerable guy starts an interaction with another person after
having been bulled, the soul of the man bully or the woman bully will attach
itself to that other person. That is
why it might appear that the vulnerable guy is in a relationship when he is not
in a relationship. But the
relationship is not between the vulnerable guy and the other person.
It is between the bully and the other person.
The man bully or the woman bully will now start to feel emotionally
satisfied and the people who had been laughing at them for their insecurity will
now start to respect the bully once again. The
vulnerable guy will notice that the new person who he started an interaction
with might act friendly towards him for a short period of time thinking that he
has started a relationship with them, but after a while they will turn cold
towards him when they realize that he has done something that activated their
emotions and then did not follow through and develop the relationship further.
Deep in the vulnerable guy’s mind he might believe that someday
the man bully or the woman bully might want to become friends with him.
He knows that his interactions with the bully have been positive for the
bully. He has seen how the bully
gets transformed from being a somewhat shallow person into a person with a
certain amount of confidence after the bully has had an interaction with him and
for this reason he might imagine that the bully might like him.
But that is not really true.
The bully will eventually “use up” the spiritual energy that
they received from the person who the vulnerable guy had relayed the bully’s
emotions to. And in “using up”
that spiritual energy the bully will also “use up” the energy that the
vulnerable guy had put into the bully’s relationship with that person.
For this reason, in most situations there is no potential for additional
spiritual energy exchanges between the bully and the vulnerable guy once the
bully has used up the spiritual energy.
But if the bully and the vulnerable guy are in a work situation or a
school situation where they are forced to continue interacting with each other,
the bully may end up bullying the vulnerable guy several times over a period of
months or years. In this type of a
situation the energy exchanges between them might eventually become fairly
strong, but it will be a negative type of energy that is being exchanged that
cannot develop into a positive relationship.
There is another type of bullying that can happen when a bully and a
vulnerable guy are in a work situation or a school situation.
If the bully is in a position of power and if somebody in the group has a
behavior problem, the bully might be reluctant to punish that person if the
person who has a behavior problem is somebody who the bully likes.
The bully might decide to punish the vulnerable guy instead.
When this sort of thing happens the people in the group know that
the person with the behavior problem has done something wrong and they are
waiting to see what the punishment will be. They know that this person must
“pay for their sins”. If the
bully at this point starts to lean unfairly on the vulnerable guy, the people in
the group will realize that the bully is trying to transfer the punishment that
was supposed to go to the person with the behavior problem to the vulnerable
guy. If the vulnerable guy does not
have the spiritual strength to stop this from happening the group might join
together spiritually to transfer the blame from the person who has the behavior
problem to the vulnerable guy. Not
only is this psychologically damaging to the vulnerable guy, but once this
happens the person with the behavior problem might start to purposely do things
that are wrong and then enjoy watching while the vulnerable guy is forced to
accept the shame and the blame.
The vulnerable guy may not have the spiritual strength to stop this sort of thing from happening, but he should make sure that he does not start to subconsciously think that he should be held responsible whenever somebody who the bully is trying to protect gets away with something at the vulnerable guy's expense. The vulnerable guy should not have to take the blame for things that other people do.
Bullies are not really getting revenge against the vulnerable guy
when they bully him for the purpose of getting him to force the bully’s
emotions onto other people. They are
doing something that they feel they need to do for themselves and the vulnerable
guy is just a tool that they are using. The
same thing is true when bullies use the vulnerable guy to divert shame and blame
away from a person who the bully is trying to protect.
The point at which the bully might start wanting to get revenge
against the vulnerable guy would be if the vulnerable guy started getting
insight into what was taking place with his interactions with the bully and
started to break free of the power that the bully has over him.
At that point it might become personal for the bully, and the bully might
actually start to develop some emotions towards the vulnerable guy (but they
would naturally be negative emotions).
The bully might try to discourage the vulnerable guy by saying something to him such as “you seem to be annoyed by my abusiveness and bullying. Well, vulnerable guy, I am annoyed by your nervousness and insecurity.” At this point the vulnerable guy should be careful not to apologize to the bully for not being more confident. The bully has not done anything to help the vulnerable guy become more confident. When bullies make comments such as this they are only stating a half-truth because the bullies are not acknowledging that people such as themselves are largely responsible for the lack of confidence that they are complaining about. It is similar in some ways to a person beating up another person and then complaining afterward that the other person does not look very good. The vulnerable guy should remember that he is not responsible for pleasing the bully.
Bullying is a complex subject and as the future unfolds we will
certainly be hearing a lot more about it. Hopefully
the people who think that bullying is a normal part of life will realize that the bullies in today’s world have a lot more power than bullies
had in the past and that these bullies will abuse that power if they are
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